Grace/ Holiness

You Cannot Be a Good Mother Without Grace

Do you struggle with giving or receiving grace in motherhood? Being a mother is not for the faint of heart. You cannot be a good mother without grace. Read more to find out why.

Of all the rights of women, the greatest is to be a mother. I love this quote I read somewhere on the internet recently. Motherhood is an amazing gift given to us. We shouldn’t be taking it for granted nor should we take it lightly.

Motherhood has this divine ability to change us from the inside out. God uses the little people in our lives to mold and shape us t0 be more like Him. My children have often shown me my need for grace and has shown me just how much grace I need to be giving to these little people.

They love to pick up all of our bad habits just as much (if not more!) than our positive qualities. Motherhood teaches us to change our attitudes quicker, change our words, watch our tone, conquer our complaining spirit and so much more. When we see how ugly it is in these precious little ones and we then realize just where they learned it from. Ouch, right?

In order to mother well, we need God’s grace to cover our failures, we need the grace of our children to offer forgiveness when we mess up and we need to give grace to the little people running around our home.

We can’t be good mothers without grace.

Motherhood is not for the faint of heart.

When you’re struggling with the defiance of your toddler or teenager, we need to be strong in grace.

When you’re sleep deprived with a newborn and you find yourself giving into a snappy attitude towards everyone in your house, you need be strong in grace. We need to seek Him and ask for grace upon grace.

2 Timothy 2:1  Thou therefore, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus.

Paul reminds us to have our hearts established with grace. What a powerful reminder for our mothering. As parents, we need to teach our children the gospel of grace and live out grace towards them and others so that we can lay a firm foundation of grace in their lives. It is not the pastor’s job, the Sunday school teacher’s job or the church’s job to teach them these biblical truths.

Hebrews 13:9a  Be not carried about with divers and strange doctrines. For it is a good thing that the heart be established with grace; 

Do you ever feel like you are a total mess up as a mother? Or maybe you struggle with feeling like you’re messing up your children or you’re not doing enough like Jane from down the street? Your kids are eating chicken nuggets (again) while her’s are eating kale and quinoa stir fry (without complaints) and you feel like the worst mom ever. I feel like this is how the devil like’s to attack mothers. If he can get us discouraged then he knows that we will often fail to rise up to the challenge of mothering well. We focus on our inabilities instead of the grace of God in our lives and His strength to allow us to raise our children up to bring glory and honor to Him. It is all the Lord’s work in our lives.

Do you struggle with giving or receiving grace in motherhood? Being a mother is not for the faint of heart. You cannot be a good mother without grace. Read more to find out why.

God gives each and every one of us grace.

Each day is a new day. If you messed up yesterday, repent, ask for forgiveness, ask for more grace and go into today with a fresh start. Don’t let the devil keep your spirit down! We all mess up. Even supermom from down the street messes up on a daily basis and needs the grace of God at work in her life. You are not the only mess up. You are not the only mom who doesn’t have it all together. You aren’t the only mom who needs grace. We all are, my friend.

Ephesians 4:7  But unto every one of us is given grace according to the measure of the gift of Christ.

When we realize our dependence on the grace of God for mothering well, we realize the need to keep growing in grace. There isn’t a point in our lives when we have received all of the grace offered to us, nor is there a point when we need to stop growing in grace and in our knowledge of God. We need to be life-long learners of God’s grace and of Him.

Motherhood is a life-long journey and with each new season, we have the chance to grow some more in our grace and knowledge of Jesus. The grace we need to parent toddlers is going to be different than the grace we need when they’re teenagers. Motherhood changes us and molds us more like Christ with every passing day. 

Your grace still amazes me, Your love is still a mystery. Each day I fall on my knees, Your grace still amazes me. (an exerpt from a song by Abigail Miller and her family)

Friend, we cannot be the perfect mother, we cannot meet our own expectations on motherhood if we are doing it in vain, for our own selves, or for the glory and praise of men. It is only by the grace of God that we can be the mother God intended us to be. And that may or may not line up with your own ideas. God will use motherhood to humble us when we are striving in vain. It’s time to rely on God’s grace when mothering, it’s time to acknowledge it and depend on it to carry you through each season. Let’s start teaching our children that all we do is only due to the work of God’s amazing grace in our lives.

1 Corinthians 15:10  But by the grace of God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain; but I laboured more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me.


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  • Reply
    July 20, 2016 at 9:20 am

    Thank you for this! I mess up so often in my parenting. My emotions come out in the worse way in front of my kids. I’m so glad that God’s grace starts anew every time I miss the mark. My kids see my reliance on my Savior. If I don’t teach them anything worth while, I hope they see a momma that needs Jesus everyday!

    Thanks for this encouraging post!

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      Anastasia Safee
      July 25, 2016 at 2:49 pm

      I have the same thought every time I mess up with my kids. They get to see me go to Jesus and then apologize to them. It’s so important that we do that, for their sake more than ours, amen?

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    July 20, 2016 at 10:16 am

    This is so true. As a mother of 7 I can attest to the fact that I need grace. My children are grown now and I have 13 grandchildren, and I am thankful for the grace that God gives for every season. Parenting is not easy, but leaning on God for strength, wisdom and grace makes all the difference. Thanks for this encouraging post! I’m your neighbor at the #RaRaLinkup! Blessings to you!

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      Anastasia Safee
      July 25, 2016 at 2:50 pm

      I so agree, relying on God through each season is the key to parenting well. So glad you were my neighbor so you could share your story with me! 🙂

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    Carmen | MarriedbyHisGrace
    July 20, 2016 at 2:46 pm

    Thank you for the encouragement! I needed it today! Being a full time mommy is a lot of work all the time but I have to continuously remember Gods grace upon our lives and He will strengthen us. Grace is given to us through faith. As long as we believe in Him, we are able to go to the throne and ask for Grace upon us each day.

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      Anastasia Safee
      July 25, 2016 at 2:51 pm

      Yes, yes, yes! We can’t parenting without the Lord. Thanking Him that each day is a new day filled with new grace and mercy!

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    July 20, 2016 at 3:56 pm

    Thanks, Ana! This is so true! Giving and extending grace is critical to our motherhood and every other aspect of our lives as well. Found you at Raising Homemakers and would love for you to share this at our Literacy Musing Mondays Linkup as well.

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      Anastasia Safee
      July 25, 2016 at 2:52 pm

      I so agree, as we go through our study we will hit on the other aspects of life as well! I’m loving this study through grace!

      Checking out your linky!

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    July 21, 2016 at 9:52 am

    Isn’t it funny how God drops the things, words or actions that we need right in our laps!? I happened to click on your blog and this is exactly what I have been struggling with lately, and I know there are so many amazing mothers who feel the same way. It is so easy to get down on ourselves when we have a “bad” day with our kiddos, or week! 🙂 Thank you for reminding us, through God’s words that we are good enough and doing our best. It is also such a great reminder to give our littles grace like God gives it to us. Great article!

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      Anastasia Safee
      July 25, 2016 at 2:57 pm

      I am blessed to know that this was exactly what you needed. God is so good to work that out.

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    July 24, 2016 at 4:29 pm

    There was a season recently where this topic was on my heart a lot! I prayed often (and still do) that His grace will cover my insufficiencies and mistakes.

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      Anastasia Safee
      July 25, 2016 at 3:00 pm

      I do as well, friend. It is on my prayer list every day. Begging the Lord to fill in the gaps when I mess it up.

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    Crystal Twaddell
    July 27, 2016 at 2:26 pm

    This is so good! I am a huge believer that God’s grace to fill the gaps makes all the difference in motherhood and building a Godly legacy. We simply cannot mother God’s way without this grace. I feel myself saying “AMEN” through every paragraph you write! Your writing is perfect for the Fresh Market Friday Link-Up because it is all about being intentional and passionate about how we live our lives in Christ!! So glad I stopped by:) Crystal~

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      Anastasia Safee
      August 7, 2016 at 3:39 pm

      I am so glad you agree!

      And thank you – I’ll check out your linkup!

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