Hugs, hand holding, tickling, snuggling, and kissing are all normal scenes in our home.
Along with smiles, blowing kisses and multiple “I love you’s” being said.
This affection not only takes place among our children but also between Mama and Daddy.
Yes, our children get along. Most of the time. They enjoy each other’s company and show each other affection. Our Little Lady loves to hug and kiss her brothers goodnight. They laugh and tickle each other as they play. How do they learn this behavior? It certainly doesn’t come naturally!
Children learn how to get along and interact with each other by watching their examples. If my husband and I are constantly contentious with each other it will rub off on them and they will treat each other the same way.
They are also learning what marriage looks like by the watching their parents. They are learning how to have either a happy, lively marriage, a mediocre marriage or an unhappy marriage by watching us. They are more perceptive than we give them credit for.
What are we teaching them by how we treat our spouses? How are we preparing them for their future marriage?
Why We Show Affection in Front of Our Children
1. Model a Healthy Marriage.
If Christian marriages look dull and boring why would Christian kids want to grow up and have one of their own. They won’t. What the world has to offer looks enticing, fun and exciting. We are up against a big threat. Satan is doing everything he can to break down the institute of marriage.
We need to be modeling a healthy, fun and exciting marriage to our children if we want to have any hope of them wanting it for themselves.
Christianity doesn’t need to be boring!
Research shows that children feel more secure when their parents get along. I wonder how much more confidence children would have if their parents not only got along but enjoyed their marriage.
I grew up in a broken home, my biological father has never been a part of my life while my mom and stepdad fought like cats and dogs for many of their early years. Dad would move out for a few months here and there. (He always came back.) That was the norm and because of that it left us kids always wondering when the next fight would break out, if dad was gonna leave, if mom was gonna storm out, you name it. It is an unpleasant feel for little children. My background definitely backs up the research.
So as a wife and mom, I want to break those destructive patterns that tend to plague each generation. I want to make sure my kids feel safe and secure that Mama and Daddy will always be there. I hope to raise more confident adults.
I love my parents but my upbringing has definitely defined who I am today but I would be deceiving myself if I were to sit here and write that I am grew up into a confident and secure adult based on my childhood experience. Thankfully, we are all a work in progress!
If you’ve never read Courtney’s post (linked above) on this philosophy I strongly suggest that you do! I love her insight into this area.
Seriously, you will have a better, more fulfilling marriage if you’re kissing often.
We are modeling what marriage looks like to our children. There is this image that Christians have dull and boring marriages. Many young adults leave the church. Men are falling into pornography addictions left and right. What if we were modeling that Christians have just as much fun (even more fun when done Gods way!).
If we aren’t living by example we are setting up our children for a shaky future. Marriage is the foundation for a healthy family. When marriages crumble so do the families and generations to come. This is why satan is trying so hard to attack this institution. Let’s put up a fight.
Your turn! What kind of marriage are you modeling for your children? Do you make it a habit to show affection in front of your children?
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