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Why We Do Play Dates

Will the mommy wars ever end? There is always something that moms can use to feel superior with. There is a rising movement against play dates. Yes, I'm serious. Here's why we do play dates and why you probably do too even when you boldly declare you don't.

Can I be honest? This growing anti-play date movement amongst Christians makes me want to throw a good ole two-year-old fit.

Honestly, though, what is the deal?

I’m of the opinion that it all comes down to vocabulary.

mommy wars are breaking out in the Christian circle over a vocabulary issue.

A play date by definition is a play session for small children arranged in advance by their parents. Duri which the parents – typically the moms – have a chance to catch up over coffee or lunch.

Can I just say that people that say they don’t do play dates are telling a big fat lie?!

Other terms used in place of “play date”:

Come over for lunch.

Come over for dinner.

Let’s go to the zoo.

Let’s go to the park.

Let’s go to the beach.

By definition, all of the above falls under the term play date. Just because you don’t use the term play date doesn’t mean you are not having a play date. You just don’t use the term so that you can feel superior as a parent.

Can I just come out and say “we do play dates!”

Will the mommy wars ever end? There is always something that moms can use to feel superior with. There is a rising movement against play dates. Yes, I'm serious. Here's why we do play dates and why you probably do too even when you boldly declare you don't.

I’m glad I could get that off my chest. And do you know why we do play dates? Because our kids have friends, because we have friends, because as Christians we are to minister to others. Hospitality is ringing a bell, anyone?

If we just locked ourselves into our homes from sunup till sundown we would be miserable, depressed people. God created us for community.

“Well, our kids are being taught to be best friends and play with each other.” Is a common argument against play dates that I hear over and over recently. Well, what do you know – so are mine. Mine play together all day every day, except those few times that we crawl out from under the rock that good Christian families are supposed to be living under and we hang out with other humans beings.

Can we all just get off our high horse and stop fighting over a vocabulary word? We all do play dates whether we use the term ‘play date’ or not.

We all need friends. We all need socialization. If you invite one of your friends over for lunch and your kids are playing together while you are eating, you are having a play date. Own it. I sure do!

In case you’re like me and feel slighted every time Sally from church declares self-righteously that their family doesn’t do play dates you can kick those feelings to the curb because she’s just confused as to what the definition is. Maybe buy her a dictionary for Christmas.

Play date mamas, unite! Who’s coming over?!

 

Your turn? What kind of play date do you enjoy most? Let’s chat in the comments below!

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5 Comments

  • Reply
    Jen L
    September 21, 2016 at 9:00 am
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      Jen L
      September 21, 2016 at 9:02 am

      Play dates are supposed to be bad? I can’t keep up with all these rules, lol. Stupid mommy wars! Let’s just all do our best with our own kids and let it pass if someone else does things a slightly different way. We can be friends with people with different opinions and philosophies, and don’t need to feel threatened by the way others do things. We’re all (hopefully) trying to please God with how we raise our families, and that doesn’t look the same for every family. Good post 🙂

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        Anastasia Safee
        October 4, 2016 at 4:06 pm

        You must miss the Wednesday night discussions on them. The topic seems to be popping up a lot lately. And many are of the “we don’t do playdates and if you do you are a terrible parent”. I agree with everything you said!

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    Naomi K.
    September 28, 2016 at 2:00 pm

    Haha I have to admit that when I was a kid, I don’t remember having any play dates. But that really wasn’t a term back then, and we went to church a few times a week and that’s like a big play date so I was fine socially. But now I’m a 25 year old Independent Baptist who doesn’t have my own children, but I nanny several and I love play dates! I totally agree that it doesn’t matter what you call it. I love when I get a chance to talk to an adult, and “my” kids have someone else to play with besides me. One of my best friends has gotten 2 different single moms to come out to church recently, just from being friendly at the play ground and setting up future play dates for their kids. So I say, I don’t think the Lord minds if we have play dates. 🙂

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      Anastasia Safee
      October 4, 2016 at 4:31 pm

      ” love when I get a chance to talk to an adult, and “my” kids have someone else to play with besides me.”-Yes!! This is it. We need to stay engaged and connected to a community.

      Love the opportunities to witness to others as well, my cousin is great with this as well! I think I’m too introverted and shy to connect that far with strangers, lol! I’m working on it though 🙂

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