Can I be honest? This growing anti-play date movement amongst Christians makes me want to throw a good ole two-year-old fit.
Honestly, though, what is the deal?
I’m of the opinion that it all comes down to vocabulary.
mommy wars are breaking out in the Christian circle over a vocabulary issue.
A play date by definition is a play session for small children arranged in advance by their parents. Duri which the parents – typically the moms – have a chance to catch up over coffee or lunch.
Can I just say that people that say they don’t do play dates are telling a big fat lie?!
Other terms used in place of “play date”:
Come over for lunch.
Come over for dinner.
Let’s go to the zoo.
Let’s go to the park.
Let’s go to the beach.
By definition, all of the above falls under the term play date. Just because you don’t use the term play date doesn’t mean you are not having a play date. You just don’t use the term so that you can feel superior as a parent.
Can I just come out and say “we do play dates!”
I’m glad I could get that off my chest. And do you know why we do play dates? Because our kids have friends, because we have friends, because as Christians we are to minister to others. Hospitality is ringing a bell, anyone?
If we just locked ourselves into our homes from sunup till sundown we would be miserable, depressed people. God created us for community.
“Well, our kids are being taught to be best friends and play with each other.” Is a common argument against play dates that I hear over and over recently. Well, what do you know – so are mine. Mine play together all day every day, except those few times that we crawl out from under the rock that good Christian families are supposed to be living under and we hang out with other humans beings.
Can we all just get off our high horse and stop fighting over a vocabulary word? We all do play dates whether we use the term ‘play date’ or not.
We all need friends. We all need socialization. If you invite one of your friends over for lunch and your kids are playing together while you are eating, you are having a play date. Own it. I sure do!
In case you’re like me and feel slighted every time Sally from church declares self-righteously that their family doesn’t do play dates you can kick those feelings to the curb because she’s just confused as to what the definition is. Maybe buy her a dictionary for Christmas.
Play date mamas, unite! Who’s coming over?!
Your turn? What kind of play date do you enjoy most? Let’s chat in the comments below!
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