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Why I Don’t Dress My Kids Every Day 

Do you dress your kids every day, even if you don't leave the house? I don't! Find out why!




Confession: I do not make my children get out of their pajamas every day.

Are you shocked? I hope you’re not. If you ever taken a close look at any of our homeschool posts you will have noticed by now that my children are usually always in their pajamas. And I’m not afraid to admit it.

I’m certainly not going to make them change for picture sake for the blog. That would not be showing how we really live. And I’m all about being real with you all!

I hope you won’t judge me. But I see no need for them to change into clothes for the day when we have no plans to leave the house. It seems like a waste of laundry to me. It is creating more work for myself.

I know it seems like this would make me appear lazy but I disagree.

There are so many  of other household duties that need to be done every day, the child training and discipline, along with homeschooling and connecting with them. I am far from lazy! I’m actually very busy! There doesn’t seem to be enough hours in the day to accomplish everything. I’m sure most moms can relate to that.

We create enough laundry for 5 people by still letting our kids stay in pajamas most days. Shocker, right?

Why create more laundry for myself that will just pile up, need washing, drying, folding and the daunting task of putting them back into drawers?

I don’t see the point so I don’t dress my kids every day.

Do you dress your kids every day, even if you don't leave the house? I don't! Find out why!




Now when we leave the house, they change. When we go outside to play, they change. Unless they’re going out in their snow pants. Then, you guessed it – they stay in their pajamas!

Less laundry to worry and stress over is a win for this mama.

Maybe when my kids are older and can do their own laundry our family culture will shift to the point that they will get dressed every day. But by then, they may too accustomed to their old habits that they simply will not care either way. Time will tell on that one, I suppose! And guess what, I’m okay with that too!

There are so many other things that we have to worry about and oversee as wives and mothers. If the never ending, laundry piles are keeping you chained to your laundry room and not serving your family well in other areas, may I suggest incorporating some pajamas days in your home? Trust me, you feel less overwhelmed with the task of laundry when there is less of it.

And what kid wouldn’t say that they would rather their mama take the time to play with them or be less overwhelmed than fretting about the laundry or what they will wear for the day? I think we all know what our kids would say. I know what mine would say.

So there you have it, why I don’t dress my kids every day.

 

Your turn! Do you make your kids get dressed every day? Even if you aren’t leaving the house? Are you thinking about incorporating more pajama days in your home? Do you make your kids get dressed every day whether you leave the house or not? If so, why? Let’s chat in the comments below! I would love to hear your thoughts!

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49 Comments

  • Reply
    Diane Kirkland
    March 9, 2016 at 9:36 am

    You rock Ana…I stay in my pj’s on days I don’t have to go anywhere…

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    MELANIE REDD
    March 9, 2016 at 11:45 am

    Your house sounds like much fun!
    I love spending the whole day in my pj’s!
    Wish we were neighbors. I’d just paddle on over in my pj’s, and we’d enjoy a cup of coffee!
    Hope you guys enjoy your day~
    Blessings,
    Melanie

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 9, 2016 at 3:09 pm

      That would be great! I’d love to have you! My kids probably wouldn’t even notice since they’re so used to it. 🙂

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    Shecki @ Greatly Blessed
    March 9, 2016 at 12:47 pm

    I think there’s something to be said for looking presentable. We have to leave the house at 7:30 every morning, so we get dressed every day. But even if my husband is home to take the teens to school, we still get dressed, and my girls’ hair still gets done. Maybe it’s the FlyLady way of thinking. I know I feel better and perform better when I look nice.

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 9, 2016 at 3:12 pm

      Well, like I said, if we do leave the house everyone gets dressed. But let’s face it – with little children we don’t go venturing out of the house all that often, especially in the winter time. I don’t see the need for more laundry. My daughter’s hair does get done, usually many times in one day! She’s a wild one! I’ve never been a big FlyLady fan, her methods would just make me feel bad and beat myself for not sticking with the imposed rules I would place on myself because of them. But that’s me!

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      Heather
      March 11, 2016 at 7:31 pm

      Lol I’ve been “FLYwashed”, too! Getting dressed to shoes is my favorite habit – I just don’t feel ready for the day until I am. I’ve been dressing my baby every day, too. It sure helped out when I had to drop everything & rush him to the dr. We were both dressed, my shoes were on & we were in the car in 5 minutes! It would have taken MUCH longer had we not been dressed. Today we got a lot of wind & rain in the afternoon, so we changed back into our jammies, but that’s a treat around here in the daytime 🙂

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    Becca @ The Earthling's Handbook
    March 9, 2016 at 3:18 pm

    We leave the house every day unless we’re sick, so we always get dressed. One way to reduce laundry is to wear the same set of PJs for several nights. After all, if you only slept in them (instead of wearing them all day as you’re eating, crawling on the floor, etc.) they’re not really dirty after one night.

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 10, 2016 at 10:43 pm

      I’m with you! If we leave the house then they do wear the same pajamas that night. No sense in making more laundry 😉

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    Karen Del Tatto
    March 9, 2016 at 3:30 pm

    Unwittingly, I guess we had many pajama days back when I was homeschooling my children. Sweet memories for sure. Thanks for bringing those back for me! 🙂

    • Reply
      Anastasia Safee
      March 10, 2016 at 10:45 pm

      Love seeing others who think like me! I’m sure I’ll be fond of these memories some days…

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    Morgan @ Morgan Manages Mommyhood
    March 9, 2016 at 4:18 pm

    YESSSS!! When we leave the house, I put clothes on my son. But most days it’s jams all day for both of us. Especially considering that I’m 8.5 months pregnant, I don’t have the patience for all of that laundry! Plus, it’s comfier for everyone!

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 10, 2016 at 10:47 pm

      I am with you Morgan! So glad I’m not alone! And being comfy at 8.5 months pregnant is of the utmost importance.

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    Lisa
    March 10, 2016 at 12:41 pm

    We leave on the pajamas, or wear “around the house clothes” that might get worn more than once, if we don’t get dirty (which is most days). It does make such a difference to the laundry!

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 12, 2016 at 3:55 pm

      It is amazing at the difference it has on the laundry!

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    Julie @ Logger's Wife
    March 10, 2016 at 1:17 pm

    I’m just the opposite. Granted, I only have one kid for a few more weeks. But I require that my daughter and I both get dressed every day. It only takes a couple minutes (unless we are going somewhere then somehow she ends up in slo-mo). Productivity improves so much for both of us. Unless it is summer and she’s outside getting dirty, an outfit gets worn two days in a row so that cuts down on laundry. PJ days are only for when sick, really worn out from some insane days, etc. That makes them special here instead of more the norm. (visiting from the Waiting on Wednesday link-up)

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 12, 2016 at 3:59 pm

      I guess I don’t see why my toddlers need to be “productive”. Their life is all about play at this age, so why not let be comfy. Lol! I know that I need a shower and fresh change of clothes to be productive but they don’t have anything other than toys and coloring to work at for the day. If we have to make an impromptu trip to the doctor we just make sure to give ourselves enough time to get ready and get there. Since that has only happened once or twice in their lifetime I haven’t had to change my perspective on changing their clothes every morning for a what-if.

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    Maria
    March 10, 2016 at 3:11 pm

    I’d love it if i stayed in PJs all day and I’m a full grown adult! Thank you for sharing this with us on #SHINEbloghop, Ana!. All moms need to prioritize and every one of us has a different set of things to do–some take precedence over others–but it certainly doesn’t make us bad mothers or parents. It’s whatever works with our family that we must do–whether that’s cutting laundry down and wearing sweats all day, or just getting our play clothes dirty…to each its own. And kudos for you for being honest about it all!

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 12, 2016 at 4:00 pm

      I so agree, we need to decide on what works best for our family and not feel pressured to do it another way to just keep up with the jones’. Thanks for visiting from the link up!

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    Amanda
    March 10, 2016 at 4:16 pm

    I almost always get dressed for the day because I don’t feel like being productive if I haven’t put on my “real” pants (jeans) but I only make my kids get dressed if we are leaving the house…and sometimes not even then! Often times my kids sleep in the same clothes that pass for pjs (because my oldest has SPD and can’t stand stiff or scratchy clothes) and they look fine enough to go out in public without changing. I definitely don’t care what they wear at home. I just finished homeschooling my entirely nude preschooler! He’d rather be naked and he was focusing on numbers, letters and telling time so well I figured why bother dressing him? My 5 yr old just likes to be in pjs (or pj-like clothes) all the time. I also have my husband and a baby to do laundry for so the less laundry the better.

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 12, 2016 at 4:03 pm

      That is so funny! Hey, if he’s happy and learning then so be it! I do showered and change my clothes every morning in order to get into the mentality of time to start working on my to-do list. But I don’t make my kids do it! Glad I’m not alone!

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    Jen L
    March 11, 2016 at 12:18 am

    We used to have a lot more pj days. But the kids started giving me a lot of behavior problems around getting dressed, and I had to make sure it was one of the first things we did in the morning so I had plenty of time to deal with it without needing to get somewhere, lol. Plus, when the baby was born and they were all so small, it seemed to take a year and a day to get everyone dressed, and we could never get outside to play if they weren’t already dressed. Now that everyone is getting bigger and self sufficient, we are enjoying some pj days again!

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 12, 2016 at 4:06 pm

      I think I would definitely need to do the same thing if my kids were giving me attitude issues when they did have to get dressed. We were having issues with getting shoes on to leave for a little while and I had to just randomly tell them to get their shoes on during the day to training them to do it right away with a good attitude. I’m glad they are doing better though so you can enjoy more pj days!

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    Latisha
    March 11, 2016 at 9:54 am

    Well, I certainly can’t judge, my kids have plenty of pj days, so do I and my laundry is still ridiculously endless. You’re right, with the others things that have to be done, big deal about the pajamas. Thanks for sharing this thought with us at TGI Saturdays. Blessings.

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 12, 2016 at 4:10 pm

      Exactly! There is still plenty of laundry to be done even when you have pj days! And I just don’t have all the time in the world to fold and put away so many clothes, lol!

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    Sandy
    March 11, 2016 at 11:33 am

    We definitely have a pj day every now and then but not everyday. I love routine and I found days that I made the kids get dressed we fell into routine better. Like, get dressed, make your bed, feed the dog, etc. So now getting dressed is part of our regular morning routine. But Saturdays- forget it. No one is getting dressed unless we go out.

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 12, 2016 at 4:12 pm

      I still make my kids do morning chores to start our day out. Doing so definitely helps them get into the time-to-do-school next mentality. But I still don’t make them change their clothes. I think I would get some attitude if I did. They have come to love their pjs and as soon as we get home from anywhere they all go right upstairs to change back into their pjs! It’s so funny!

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    Candace
    March 11, 2016 at 1:11 pm

    It’s funny – when I first saw the post title on #SHINEbloghop, I thought it was going to address you letting your kids pick out their own outfits and get dressed. I was totally prepared for some crazy outfits. I might need to incorporate this mindset on Fridays and Sundays. Since my daughter will only wear nightgowns that are princess style, she would be perfectly content to remain in that all day.

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 12, 2016 at 4:14 pm

      Ha, that is so funny! Well, I don’t get them dressed myself anymore now that they are all older. It makes me sad but I love that they can get ready while I am getting ready! Even my 2 year old gets herself dressed and she does have some crazy outfits that I usually have to fix. I totally say try letting your little lady stay in her pretty nightgowns if you aren’t going anywhere. She will love it! 😉

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    Michele Morin
    March 11, 2016 at 3:25 pm

    This post cracks me up, because it reminds me of a Christmas season when EVERYONE in our house was sick for the entire season, and every single Christmas picture that year has all four boys in their matching Christmas pajamas. I guess I must have left them in those jammies for days after Christmas, and there they are opening presents or sitting in front of the tree all pale and thin and sick looking in those sorry old pajamas.
    Funny the things we do just to survive when our kids are small!

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 12, 2016 at 4:18 pm

      Aw!! I have been there too! Being so sick is awful! I often think that I will love these memories when they are older and have so many out of the house activities as teenagers and they must get dressed every day. The pj days will be long gone and I’ll cherish it. I know that time is coming all too quickly!

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    Elizabeth Meyers
    March 11, 2016 at 9:21 pm

    I personally like to wear workout clothes which look like clothes but feel like Pjs. 🙂 That way, I’m comfy but ready for an unexpected knock at the door or dash out of the house. My youngest son calls sweatpants “softy pants” and that name has stuck. If I don’t have a particular place to be, it’s definitely a softy pants day for me!

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 12, 2016 at 4:22 pm

      I love it! Its so true though, work out clothes are comfy. The best of both worlds!

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    Mommy Muddling
    March 12, 2016 at 10:14 am

    Jammies for the win! I love the logic and we’re not leaving I’m all about everyone staying in their pajamas, too!

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    Suzette
    March 14, 2016 at 2:13 pm

    I am high-fiving you in spirit! If no one is coming over or we have no place to be, we hang in our jammies.

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    Tasha Medellin
    March 14, 2016 at 3:13 pm

    Hi Ana! I just clicked on your link from Mommy Moments, and realized I have seen you on Instagram. 🙂 Nice to see ya again! We totally have pajama days at least once or twice a week. Really, I guess the reason I do have my girls (ages 5 and 7) get dressed most of the time is that there is usually some reason they need to be. They like to play outside (and they’re old enough to play in the yard while I’m in the house sometimes), or they might be going somewhere later in the day. Getting dressed and ready seems to take a while sometimes, and I don’t want to have to do it while we’re rushing around trying to get out the door. I’d rather “get it over with” early in the day. 🙂 I did make up a fun song to help my kids learn what to do to “get ready for the day,” to the tune of “If You’re Happy and You Know It.” Blessings!! Tasha
    Btw… I like your logic. 🙂 Just go with it! We mamas have to do what works for us and our families!

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 14, 2016 at 9:16 pm

      I think once my kids are older and have more out of the house activities they will end up having to get dressed most mornings like yours. I’m going to enjoy their jammies days for as long as I can, lol! I agree, it seems like it takes forever for everyone to get dressed and out the door when we are leaving. I love that they are independent in that area but sometimes I would love to just get them dressed myself so we can get out of the door faster! Thanks for stopping by from the linkup!

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    AnneMarie
    March 15, 2016 at 12:38 pm

    Love this! When I was a small homeschooled child, I really loved being able to wear my pj’s while doing school. It does save on laundry, as well as time-why spend copious amounts of time getting all gussied up when you’re not leaving the house all day? That being said, now that I’m a SAHM (my little one is in utero, so he’s not homeschooled yet!) there are days where, in order to get myself going, I have to change my clothes and brush my hair. But, I also re-wear my clothes quite a few times before throwing them in the laundry basket (if they’re presentable and don’t smell bad, why wash them?) so that we don’t have to do laundry a lot. I think it’s definitely good for families to find what works for them!

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 15, 2016 at 4:25 pm

      We re-wear clothes a bunch of clothes as well. I think when you wash things so much they break down and become ratty much faster. I agree, if you’re not going anywhere why get ready as if you are? I do need to shower and do my hair in order to get going but that does make more sense to me since we have work to do around the house. But I’m not wearing my going out clothes usually. I love saving time and energy any place I can!

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    Aimee Imbeau
    March 18, 2016 at 12:07 am

    I let my kids stay in their PJ’s, too. However…my two oldest are getting dressed in the mornings by their own choice. My youngest may never get dressed;) She loves her jammies!

    Thanks for linking up with Grace and Truth!

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    Alisa
    March 21, 2016 at 2:01 pm

    Haha!! We do the same thing. I’d rather stay comfy and get to work on homeschool. When we need to leave, then we get dressed! Otherwise, it’s jammies! Usually by lunch time we are ready to get dressed. I feel like one of the perks of homeschooling is getting to stay in comfy clothes for awhile, so why not take advantage of that? Linking up with you at Mama Moment Monday!

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 21, 2016 at 9:49 pm

      Love love love! I agree! I think my kids would fuss more if I made them get dressed, lol!

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    Crystal
    March 22, 2016 at 10:43 am

    Anastasia, I don’t have children but you certainly swayed me with this post! I’ve babysat for a lot of families and I can say that many did not change their kids when they were home all day, and they gave me the option on whether to change them or not. Interesting post and perspective. Happy to have found you at Soul Survival.

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      Anastasia Safee
      March 22, 2016 at 2:55 pm

      I do wonder if more people do it and they don’t want to admit it because they don’t want others to think down on them? Food for thought, I suppose!

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