There is something exciting about going to your friend’s house as a child or teenager, I remember those days. Usually, we all had that one friend that we would love to spend all of our time at. Why is that? But if you are noticing that your teenager (or younger kids!) is always wanting to spend all of his time at his friend’s house it should cause the warning signal in your head to start flashing.
What is it about their friend’s house that is calling to them?
Typically, we feel welcomed there but often times it can be so many things combined together. No one wants to go to a house where they don’t feel welcomed at, right? So right off the bat welcoming wins the award.
Often times it’s the overall atmosphere in the home that they are drawn too. It’s not always the games or toys that they want to be around. It’s the people and the atmosphere.
A warm, inviting atmosphere trumps most everything else. A home where the parents are happy, loving towards each other and towards everyone inside the home is one that people are naturally drawn too. One where the kids get along and play well with each other. You can not only see their love but you can feel it too while you’re there.
A home filled with laughter makes everyone want to linger longer. The Bible tells us that laughter is the best medicine, it lightens up everyone’s mood and lifts everyone’s spirit. People, even kids and teens, are drawn to happy people.
A home that has the family’s story or what they value most spread throughout the house in beautiful ways, even if the house looks lived in, is one that every feels accepted in. The house doesn’t need to be designer beautiful. But there is something inviting about a home that has been decorated to meet the taste and story of those who live there. I’m pretty sure I could decorate every room in my house with coffee quotes and pictures, ahem.
Does that describe your friend’s house?
What about yours?
Is it too lived in, to the point where you have no dishes to eat on or clean clothes to wear let alone a spot to sit on the couch from all the junk? A messy home makes for a messy lifestyle with no organization and a constant feeling of being frazzled and overwhelmed.
Is there way too much fighting and complaining going on? Is everyone always grumpy and going about their chores with laziness, if they even do them? Are you always watching television instead of interacting with each other?
Maybe you and your husband fight more than you think you do and it’s pushing your kids away-right on over to their friend’s house. Or maybe you are always finding fault in your home, in your kids, in everyone’s less than perfect way of doing their chores?
How’s your attitude mama? You set the tone in the home. Is it a tone that your kids and their friends are drawn too? Or are they repelled by it?
When your kids are always begging to be somewhere else and never seem to want to be home there may just be more going on than you realize. Take some time to dig a little deeper, ask yourself these hard questions. You may find some areas that need improvement or you may just find that their friend really does just have a new video game that they are currently obsessed with. But I challenge you not to let your guard down and strive to be that home where your kid’s friends always want to be. Love, laughter, and beauty are the things that make a home one worth desiring to be at, any chance you can, especially if your home is the exact opposite of the one that you live in.
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