According to Webster’s dictionary passion means a strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about doing something.
We are all passionate about something. Maybe for you it’s exercise, cooking, baking, organizing, party planning, sewing, crafting or writing.
We can also be passionate about things that we do and participate in. Maybe it’s serving in your church or volunteering in your child’s class.
But what happens when you lose your passion for something you once loved doing? What then?
I’ve found myself asking that very same question lately. And honestly, it’s a scary question to ask-especially if you don’t like change.
Old habits die hard.
When that habit is a passion of your’s it dies even harder. You hold on longer and harder trying to make it work in your life, trying to make yourself love it again. Surely, it is just a phase and the joy that you once had will resurface again. Right?
Maybe not. Then what? What’s a girl to do?
This is my dilemma with the Love God Greatly Bible studies. I have so loved participating in all of their studies over the last 3-4 years. I have eagerly awaited each new study and dreaded the 3 week breaks because I have enjoyed doing them so much. Except lately.
I have lost my passion.
And I’m not quite sure how to handle that. I’ve thought that surely the new Bible study topic will be THE one to get that joy back. But it hasn’t happened yet.
As you know we follow along with their Bible studies here at ANAWINS on Mondays. So here I am finding myself lacking passion for these studies yet grappling with trying to come up with a blog post about it.
Each week I sit at my computer trying to form the words and sentences that make up a post. While dreading it and putting it off all week long. My passion has surely dried up.
So now what?
3 Questions to Ask Yourself When You’ve Lost Your Passion
It’s a good idea to start with the question why. Why are you all of a sudden not enjoying this? What changed or didn’t change to make you lose the joy you once had? Can it be fixed or is it out of your hands? Are you trying to balance too many things and this is just one more thing on your plate?
2. Do I need to drop something from my day in order to find the passion again?
Sometimes when our days are too jam packed with so many things to get done, we can’t experience joy in the things we once did. Instead, we feel guilty while doing it or obligated to enjoy it and that sure enough sucks out all the happiness that should be there. Would delegating some tasks help you to enjoy your hobby or passion again?
3. Can I let it this go?
Honestly, if we did some soul searching, we would find out if we are only doing something out of obligation or because it’s just what we’ve always done or because it’s expected of us by others. When we feel like we have to live up to other people’s standards or expectations (or the expectations we put on ourselves, amen?!) we will lose the passion we once had. We can’t do things, even hobbies, out of a place of just trying to please others.
Likewise, if you have a hard time with change or you hold onto something because it’s a family tradition you’re going to find it much harder to just let it go and find something else you’re passionate about. For example, I love my mom’s Thanksgiving stuffing. It’s out of this world amazing. But she doesn’t use a recipe so she guessed at her recipe when I asked for it. She cooks with the “just smell it and you’ll know” method. I can not cook that way, I am far too Type A and recipe follower to cook that way. But for years I just had to cook it the way my mom gave it to me because that was the tradition growing up and each year it was bland and lackluster. I felt like a failure every year. Finally, 2 years ago I decided I just need to let it go and follow a new recipe. Wouldn’t you know it’s an amazing recipe that my family loves, it’s not my mom’s but it works for us. And I’m much happier each Thanksgiving instead of beating myself up over not perfecting my mom’s perfect recipe.
When you find yourself frustrated and unhappy every time you do that one thing, even after you’ve figured out the why and tried to make it work in your life, it may be time to just let it go. It may be time to let it go once you realize your why and not even bother trying to make it work anymore. It’s okay to disappoint people if it means you can stop carrying the burden of doing something you don’t like anymore. Don’t beat yourself up for letting go, don’t try to make others happy or your old self happy, embrace where you are today.
It is okay to find new passions.
That doesn’t mean that you have to give it up forever or that you can’t try it again in the future. Maybe you just need a break. But don’t do something that you aren’t enjoying just because you’re a creature of habit or a people pleaser.
For me, that means taking a break from Love God Greatly for now. That doesn’t mean that I can’t participate in their next study and it doesn’t mean that I have to do it just because it’s what I’ve done for so long.
Losing your passion for something isn’t the end of the world, it just means you’re changing and it’s time to embrace something new! That can be exciting (preaching to myself!)! Let go of the guilt and find what makes you passionate again. There’s something out there waiting to be discovered.
Your turn! Have you lost your passion for something? How did you handle it? Are you struggling with letting it go? Let’s chat in the comments below!
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