Do you look at some couples and wonder how on earth they are so happy? It seems like it comes natural to so many others. Maybe you’re struggling in your marriage and you just cannot figure out how to turn things around. It is simply really. There is a blueprint for a happy marriage, you just need to be willing to do the hard work.
Here are characteristics of a happy Christian marriage. One that will not crumble to the ground when the storms of life come blowing. They have taken the time to build a sturdy foundation and are reaping the benefits of their hard work.
Top 10 Habits of a Happy Christian Marriage
When we intentional about our walk with the Lord we will be crucifying our flesh as we seek His will for our lives. We are more likely to do the Lord’s will in our life and marriage when we take the time to spend time with Him each day. When we surrender our day to Him we are far more likely to reap the benefits of a happy marriage as the fruit of our service.
You can not have a happy marriage without the Bible being the center of your marriage. It is the glue that holds everything together.
It is one thing to go to church, read your Bible to cross it off your list but it is another thing to actually apply what you read and hear to your life. Without this action, you still are seeking your own will and happiness and you can only last for so long doing this. We need to actively apply God’s Word to our lives. Let it change us from the inside out.
The number one thing that a man desires is for the respect of his wife. This is his love language. It is so important that the wife is commanded to reverence her husband. When we follow God’s blueprint for marriage we will have a happy marriage. It is that simple.
While men crave respect, women crave affection. This is our love language.
Everyone is motivated by encouragement. Everyone is blessed by it. When you choose to encourage your spouse and focus on the positive things you will have a happy marriage. When you focus on the negative you dwell on that and you will ruin your marriage by your negative thoughts.
Every happy couple that has learned how to overlook the minor issues in their marriage is a happy marriage. They instead choose to forgive and think the best of their spouse. It will benefit your marriage when you choose forgiveness over bitterness and unforgiveness. Grace is a beautiful thing.
And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32
A happy marriage is one where both partners have learned how to communicate well. Without communication, you cannot come to an agreement or work through the arguments that will inevitably arise. If you need help with this area I highly recommend the book, Happily Married as a resource there are 3 chapters devoted to this one topic!
Let’s just leave that at that!
Happy marriages happen when both people have learned to overlook faults, choose gratitude and joy in their spouse. When you learn to be content with your spouse, your kids, your house, etc. you are on the path to a happier life.
Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. Philippians 4:11
A happy marriage isn’t rocket science, I promise you. God does not favor one couple above another. He isn’t in Heaven deciding who gets showers of blessings and who doesn’t. It’s a matter of putting His principles into practice in your personal life and in your marriage. You can have a happy marriage. These character traits can describe your marriage if you’re willing to do the work.
Your turn! Do you have a happy marriage? Which habit most describes your marriage? Which one do you need to work one? I need to work on communication and giving more grace, what about you? Let’s talk in the comments below!
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