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Top 10 Habits of a Happy Christian Marriage 

Are you looking at other couples wondering how they're so happy? How do they do it? Here are the top 10 habits of a happy Christian marriage.

Do you look at some couples and wonder how on earth they are so happy? It seems like it comes natural to so many others. Maybe you’re struggling in your marriage and you just cannot figure out how to turn things around. It is simply really. There is a blueprint for a happy marriage,  you just need to be willing to do the hard work.

Here are characteristics of a happy Christian marriage. One that will not crumble to the ground when the storms of life come blowing. They have taken the time to build a sturdy foundation and are reaping the benefits of their hard work.

Top 10 Habits of a Happy Christian Marriage

1. Personal Relationship with the Lord.

When we intentional about our walk with the Lord we will be crucifying our flesh as we seek His will for our lives. We are more likely to do the Lord’s will in our life and marriage when we take the time to spend time with Him each day. When we surrender our day to Him we are far more likely to reap the benefits of a happy marriage as the fruit of our service.

2. Bible at the center of the marriage.

You can not have a happy marriage without the Bible being the center of your marriage. It is the glue that holds everything together.

3. Applying God’s principles in your life and marriage.

It is one thing to go to church, read your Bible to cross it off your list but it is another thing to actually apply what you read and hear to your life. Without this action, you still are seeking your own will and happiness and you can only last for so long doing this. We need to actively apply God’s Word to our lives. Let it change us from the inside out.

4. Respect

The number one thing that a man desires is for the respect of his wife. This is his love language. It is so important that the wife is commanded to reverence her husband. When we follow God’s blueprint for marriage we will have a happy marriage. It is that simple.

5. Affection

While men crave respect, women crave affection. This is our love language.

Are you looking at other couples wondering how they're so happy? How do they do it? Here are the top 10 habits of a happy Christian marriage.

6. Encouragement

Everyone is motivated by encouragement. Everyone is blessed by it. When you choose to encourage your spouse and focus on the positive things you will have a happy marriage. When you focus on the negative you dwell on that and you will ruin your marriage by your negative thoughts.

7. Forgiveness

Every happy couple that has learned how to overlook the minor issues in their marriage is a happy marriage. They instead choose to forgive and think the best of their spouse. It will benefit your marriage when you choose forgiveness over bitterness and unforgiveness. Grace is a beautiful thing.

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32  

8. Communication

A happy marriage is one where both partners have learned how to communicate well. Without communication, you cannot come to an agreement or work through the arguments that will inevitably arise. If you need help with this area I highly recommend the book, Happily Married as a resource there are 3 chapters devoted to this one topic!

9. Sex 

Let’s just leave that at that!

10. Contentment

Happy marriages happen when both people have learned to overlook faults, choose gratitude and joy in their spouse. When you learn to be content with your spouse, your kids, your house, etc. you are on the path to a happier life.

Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. Philippians 4:11  


A happy marriage isn’t rocket science, I promise you. God does not favor one couple above another. He isn’t in Heaven deciding who gets showers of blessings and who doesn’t. It’s a matter of putting His principles into practice in your personal life and in your marriage. You can have a happy marriage. These character traits can describe your marriage if  you’re willing to do the work.


Your turn! Do you have a happy marriage? Which habit most describes your marriage? Which one do you need to work one? I need to work on communication and giving more grace, what about you? Let’s talk in the comments below!

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    Brooke @thevinepress.org
    April 20, 2016 at 9:19 am

    Good list! Most important to my marriage? Relationship with the Lord. I find when I’m getting comfort and identity from Jesus, I’m so much sweeter (and don’t expect my husband to fill me!) And one to work on? Encouragement. It’s so easy to let days go by with the mundane and forget to lift each other up. Thanks for sharing!

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      Anastasia Safee
      April 21, 2016 at 5:21 pm

      I completely agree, if my personal walk is lacking then I start expecting my husband to fulfill all of my needs. Which is a bad road to take! Thanks for sharing with me, Brooke!

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    April 20, 2016 at 1:08 pm

    These are SO great! I definitely think that encouragement and communication are oh so key in a marriage (so is always assuming the best in your spouse). Thanks for these reminders!

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      Anastasia Safee
      April 21, 2016 at 5:34 pm

      Yes, I agree. Assuming the best is so important. Something I need to constantly work on!

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    April 20, 2016 at 5:38 pm

    I agree with every one of these points! I think I have a happy marriage (20 years) and it’s because we follow these guidelines.
    Thank you for linking with Grace and Truth last week!

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      Anastasia Safee
      April 21, 2016 at 5:37 pm

      I love hearing this, Dawn!! Hearing from women who’ve been married for a longer time than I gives me hope that God’s ways are indeed the right way. We can have a happy marriage if we are willing to put in the work and rely on the Lord.

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    April 21, 2016 at 8:03 am

    All spices that make marriage sweet. If only we all could embrace them all, God’s grace and mercy, joy and bliss will fill out homes.
    Many thanks for sharing Ana!
    Have a super blessed day!

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      Anastasia Safee
      April 21, 2016 at 5:39 pm

      Oh yes, sometimes we do resist some of them, don’t we? We’re all a work in progress!

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    beth willis miller
    April 21, 2016 at 4:03 pm

    What a great list! I love how your #2 is the Bible at the center…since Jesus is the Word made flesh, it is really Jesus at the Center of your Marriage…when He is at the center of our thoughts, our actions, our words, everything flows under His authority–our flesh and our emotions grow strangely dim in the light of HIs glory and grace….many blessings to you!

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    April 21, 2016 at 8:22 pm

    This is a great list. I agree with everyone of your points and they are all things I try to work on on a regular basis. One thing I’ve also been doing lately is reminding myself that my husband is a gift to me from God. He hand picked this man to be my husband. I am so grateful for this gift. It reminds me to never take him for granted. Since I’m not perfect, I forget that at times. And I DON’T want to forget that he is a perfect gift to me, with his imperfections and all.

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      Anastasia Safee
      April 24, 2016 at 3:23 pm

      Great point, Isabelle! It is so important to remind ourselves of that.

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    I’m visiting from Thriving on Thursdays blog hop. This is such a wonderful post! – if you have time please share this with us on the CLIMB – a month long blog hop: http://www.godsgrowinggarden.com/2016/03/april-2016-chain-linky-climb-bloghop.html
    Thank you

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