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The Importance of Winning Your Child’s Heart 

Winning your child's heart needs to be one of your top priorities as a parent. Without it you will have no influence over their lives. Learn how you can win your child's heart and keep it with these 8 proven strategies!

Growing up in a good church, I’ve seen many children leave the faith of their parents. Many of whom I grew up with chose to go off to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a season. It seems to be an epidemic in Christian culture today. I’ve asked myself many times, how does this happen? Why do we lose so many young people?

Ultimately every child has to decide for himself whether or not to stay in church and to decide whether or not to surrender to God’s will for their life. God gave us all our own free will to exercise. I know that as a young mom, I desperately want to make sure that I am actively working towards raising my children up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, raising adults who are more in love with Jesus than I am. Children who go on to do so much more than I will for God’s kingdom.

Being a parent is hard work. It is easy to get caught up in the mundane of our season and lose sight of our eternal purpose. But we can’t afford to take our eyes off the cross, because when we do we risk our children leaving the faith that we once held so close.

Winning your child’s heart needs to be a top priority in our parenting.

When we have our child’s heart we can point them to Jesus. We can teach them the biblical principles that govern our own lives and they will actually want what we are living. We will be a strong influence in their lives, not someone they despise and never want a relationship with. Without having their heart we cannot reach them for Christ. There will be contention and strife in the place of love and companionship.

The biggest danger of not having your child’s heart is that they won’t accept Christ as their Savior and surrender their life to His will. While we may want to have them be our best friend as adults, which I know I want from my own children, that shouldn’t be our only motivation. There is more to life than earthly relationships and possessions. I would be more devastated that my children weren’t serving the Lord as adults than I would be if we weren’t best of friends.

The question remains, how do we actually go about winning our child’s heart? It sounds good but we need the steps to get there. Especially if we are new, young parents. We need the help and guidance of older, seasoned, wiser moms to pour into us teaching about how to do this.

When my blogging friend, Melanie Redd, turned her blog series How to Win Your Child’s Heart for Life into a book and Bible study for moms I was so excited to get my hands on a copy. Melanie has two adult children who are still close to her and seeking her advice and guidance – even in their college years. I love that!


In her book, Melanie gives us 8 strategies for winning and keeping our child’s heart. Strategies that she used in her parenting. This is a book that all parents need to get a copy of. It is a simple book to read with heartfelt stories and encouragement to get you through the tough times in parenting. I loved how she called the preteen/teen years the Dark Side. As a Star Wars loving family, this appealed me and made me laugh! How true is that description??

My favorite strategy is number one, don’t stop praying. Pray for your children, teach them how to pray, let them see you praying. The day we stop praying for our children is the day we start to put their eternity at risk. If we won’t pray for them, who will? This is so important and I wanted to jump deeper into the book when it started out with this key strategy! I wanted to soak up all the other advice within its pages!

Quit barking at your kids was another strategy that I loved. how often do you stand there lecturing your child and you haven’t even noticed that they’ve tuned you out? We cannot win our child’s heart if we are always yelling at them. Sounds simple, right? But so many of us are guilty of this behavior.

Winning your child's heart needs to be one of your top priorities as a parent. Without it you will have no influence over their lives. Learn how you can win your child's heart and keep it with these 8 proven strategies!

When we take the time to teach them when they are teachable and stop lecturing them when they aren’t listening we have a greater chance with influencing them. I know that is what we all want. We want our kids to listen to us and also to care about what we are actually saying. I don’t like wasting my breath feeling like I’m not being heard, I imagine you don’t either. Melanie will show you how you can stop barking at your kids while actually still getting through to them.

I could go on and on about how amazing this book is but I want you to read it for yourself. It is a must have in every parent’s arsenal because let’s face it, we need all the help we can get from a biblical standpoint. You can read it alone or do it as a Bible study with a group of other moms. There are questions at the end of each chapter to get you reflecting on your own parenting and how you can improve with each strategy.

Our children are important to us and they are important to God.

Let’s do our best at winning their hearts early and keep them for life.

I am so excited to be able to give away my extra copy of Melanie’s book to one of my readers along with a $15 Starbucks gift card to use while you read! Simply fill out the form below for you chance to win! If you don’t want to wait, then head over to Amazon today to get your copy! The winner will be announced Mother’s Day!

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Your turn! How are you winning your child’s heart today? Do you need practical ways and ideas to do so? Let’s talk in the comments below!

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  • Reply
    May 4, 2016 at 9:32 am

    As a mom of 12, so far three married ones and 5 grandkids, ages 28 down to 1, I have found the most important thing in order to win your child’s heart is to make sure your own heart is won to the Lord. Be an example in word and deed of what you want for them. The second most important thing is to embrace your motherhood/wifehood as a blessing from God as it should be and to live in that blessing.

    Thanks for sharing.

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      Anastasia Safee
      May 4, 2016 at 2:50 pm

      Wow you have quite the age range! That is amazing! I so agree, we need to have our walk with the Lord be strong if we want to win our children. So true!

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    Jennifer C
    May 4, 2016 at 9:41 am

    Thank you for my daily inspirations. I know that I am not perfect but I do try to put my Faith and family first with everything I do.

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    Melanie Redd
    May 4, 2016 at 9:49 am

    Thank you, Ana, for this very kind and gracious post today!
    I’m so grateful for you and for your friendship!
    I pray that God will sweetly bless you and your family.
    You are awesome!

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      Anastasia Safee
      May 4, 2016 at 2:50 pm

      Thanks so much, Melanie! Your book is great – I can’t wait to send it off the winner!

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    May 4, 2016 at 9:57 am

    So important to help battle the pull of the world! If you don’t win their hearts someone else will!

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      Anastasia Safee
      May 4, 2016 at 2:51 pm

      That’s right!! We gotta win them when they’re little!

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    May 4, 2016 at 11:07 am

    Is this book not the best! I love Melanie and am so excited for this book to be released. Thanks so much for hosting this giveaway! And thanks for sharing your post at Waiting on…Wednesday!

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    May 4, 2016 at 11:37 am

    Yes. I agree that it very important to have the childs heart. As a mom of four I have learned that it is often quite the challenge to know what the right thing is to do, in situations that come up in life, to also keep it. Take courage we are not it by ourselves. The Lord is by our side helping us every step of the way.

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      Anastasia Safee
      May 4, 2016 at 2:53 pm

      I agree. Each child is different and has a different love language so that makes us have to always be working at it for each child. I am always praying for wisdom on how to love them the way they feel loved so that I can win their hearts.

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    Jen L
    May 4, 2016 at 2:59 pm

    Looks like a good book! I know that I want to accomplish this when they are little, I know it’s so much easier when they’re little than if you wait until they are bigger and wanting to be more independent.

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    May 4, 2016 at 5:03 pm

    I try to spend a day twice a month -just with each of my kids…that gives them the attention and time to go over how life really is for him or her.

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      Anastasia Safee
      May 4, 2016 at 5:52 pm

      Great point. One on one time is so valuable! Something I try so hard at yet I need to improve on for sure.

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    Crystal Hall
    May 5, 2016 at 9:10 am

    Anastasia, that sounds like a wonderful book! If only I had children! One day :). I remember as a little girl, watching my mom pray and read her bible. My parent’s faith would eventually lead me to Christ as a girl. I’m so thankful they weren’t shy about their beliefs. It lead to a strong foundation for our family. Grateful to have found you today over at #CoffeeForYourHeart. Blessings to you on this Thursday.

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      Anastasia Safee
      May 8, 2016 at 2:42 pm

      I am sure watching your mother live out her faith had a big impact on your choosing it for yourself. Love it! Thanks for sharing!

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    Su Ann
    May 5, 2016 at 7:10 pm

    I am trying to win my child’s heart by being there…stopping what I am doing and being there.

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    Michele Morin
    May 6, 2016 at 9:34 am

    I’ve also enjoyed reading and sharing Melanie’s book! Thanks for your lovely review — and I appreciate your ambition with the photos!

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    Betsy de Cruz
    May 6, 2016 at 11:55 am

    Thanks for sharing about Melanie’s book. Those two tips (keep praying and stop barking!) are so encouraging. I’ve been a mom for 18 years now, but I can still use wise reminders like these. Pinning this today!

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    Stacie H
    May 7, 2016 at 12:40 am

    I have always worked at having a good relationship with my girls and encouraging them to have a good relationship with God. I go to God about everything and I encourage my girls to do the same.

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      Anastasia Safee
      May 8, 2016 at 2:48 pm

      That is great Stacie! You are being a great role model!

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    Tracie Cooper
    May 7, 2016 at 10:47 pm

    I make time everyday for my kids!

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    May 10, 2016 at 9:24 pm

    I loved what you wrote, the review of the book, and reading all of the comments above – BUT, we as parents are human. We will make mistakes, some that may affect our children in their future. This is truly why we must pray for the Lord to protect them without ceasing! God wants them to follow Him, even more than we as parents do. We did all of the above with my son, and our relationship with him had been very close. His desire from a young age was to be like his parents and love Jesus with all of his heart. He even prayed the prayer of salvation and was baptised. But, when he got older, he chose as a young adult to walk away from what he was taught, saw us live out in our lives, and desired desperately for him. I know God is STILL working in his life… as parents we are praying more than ever for him to return to his faith. Yes, seeing our adult son walk in his own path has been a devastating one, but I’m trusting the Lord to continue to soften his heart….as in the parable story of the prodigal son. God does honor our efforts to be godly examples to our children and train them “in the way they should go”! and then trust that “they are old they shall not depart from it”. Thanks for sharing!

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