Growing up in a good church, I’ve seen many children leave the faith of their parents. Many of whom I grew up with chose to go off to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a season. It seems to be an epidemic in Christian culture today. I’ve asked myself many times, how does this happen? Why do we lose so many young people?
Ultimately every child has to decide for himself whether or not to stay in church and to decide whether or not to surrender to God’s will for their life. God gave us all our own free will to exercise. I know that as a young mom, I desperately want to make sure that I am actively working towards raising my children up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, raising adults who are more in love with Jesus than I am. Children who go on to do so much more than I will for God’s kingdom.
Being a parent is hard work. It is easy to get caught up in the mundane of our season and lose sight of our eternal purpose. But we can’t afford to take our eyes off the cross, because when we do we risk our children leaving the faith that we once held so close.
Winning your child’s heart needs to be a top priority in our parenting.
When we have our child’s heart we can point them to Jesus. We can teach them the biblical principles that govern our own lives and they will actually want what we are living. We will be a strong influence in their lives, not someone they despise and never want a relationship with. Without having their heart we cannot reach them for Christ. There will be contention and strife in the place of love and companionship.
The biggest danger of not having your child’s heart is that they won’t accept Christ as their Savior and surrender their life to His will. While we may want to have them be our best friend as adults, which I know I want from my own children, that shouldn’t be our only motivation. There is more to life than earthly relationships and possessions. I would be more devastated that my children weren’t serving the Lord as adults than I would be if we weren’t best of friends.
The question remains, how do we actually go about winning our child’s heart? It sounds good but we need the steps to get there. Especially if we are new, young parents. We need the help and guidance of older, seasoned, wiser moms to pour into us teaching about how to do this.
When my blogging friend, Melanie Redd, turned her blog series How to Win Your Child’s Heart for Life into a book and Bible study for moms I was so excited to get my hands on a copy. Melanie has two adult children who are still close to her and seeking her advice and guidance – even in their college years. I love that!
In her book, Melanie gives us 8 strategies for winning and keeping our child’s heart. Strategies that she used in her parenting. This is a book that all parents need to get a copy of. It is a simple book to read with heartfelt stories and encouragement to get you through the tough times in parenting. I loved how she called the preteen/teen years the Dark Side. As a Star Wars loving family, this appealed me and made me laugh! How true is that description??
My favorite strategy is number one, don’t stop praying. Pray for your children, teach them how to pray, let them see you praying. The day we stop praying for our children is the day we start to put their eternity at risk. If we won’t pray for them, who will? This is so important and I wanted to jump deeper into the book when it started out with this key strategy! I wanted to soak up all the other advice within its pages!
Quit barking at your kids was another strategy that I loved. how often do you stand there lecturing your child and you haven’t even noticed that they’ve tuned you out? We cannot win our child’s heart if we are always yelling at them. Sounds simple, right? But so many of us are guilty of this behavior.
When we take the time to teach them when they are teachable and stop lecturing them when they aren’t listening we have a greater chance with influencing them. I know that is what we all want. We want our kids to listen to us and also to care about what we are actually saying. I don’t like wasting my breath feeling like I’m not being heard, I imagine you don’t either. Melanie will show you how you can stop barking at your kids while actually still getting through to them.
I could go on and on about how amazing this book is but I want you to read it for yourself. It is a must have in every parent’s arsenal because let’s face it, we need all the help we can get from a biblical standpoint. You can read it alone or do it as a Bible study with a group of other moms. There are questions at the end of each chapter to get you reflecting on your own parenting and how you can improve with each strategy.
Our children are important to us and they are important to God.
Let’s do our best at winning their hearts early and keep them for life.
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Your turn! How are you winning your child’s heart today? Do you need practical ways and ideas to do so? Let’s talk in the comments below!
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