A question not many of us like to ask ourselves now is it? Examining our own hearts is often one of the toughest parts of the Christian walk. We like to believe that we are better than we really are.
Romans 12:3 For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith. (emphasis added)
The Bible clearly tells us to think low of ourselves, to let another man praise you, to be humble and kind. Yet it’s in those verses that we often fail at miserably because our flesh doesn’t like it. God hates our pride. He hates our arrogance and requires us to be yielded to the fruit of meekness in order to be Spirit-led.
Meekness is the ability for God’s people to negotiate among others without causing friction.
God doesn’t want to see His people fighting among themselves. He wants us to be unified.
Psalm 133:1 Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!
Discord is the opposite of meekness.
Discord is any disagreement which produces angry passions, contests, disputes, litigations or war.
Discord sounds pretty scary doesn’t?
When we are meek we are able to get along with others. Saved or not. Meekness means putting others needs, wants and desires above your own, to sacrifice for their benefit.
Have you noticed how others are naturally drawn to meek people? It is an attractive quality is it not? Often the meekest people on earth are the peacemakers, the kindest and most loving. They would give anything to have everyone get along and would give you the shirt off their backs if it meant no discord. Do you know anyone like this? I know a few, but honestly, it’s a rare redeeming quality that is hard to find.
Many times we let our stubborn personality get in the way. We let our Italian background stomp on others. We let our Greek goddess-ness demand awe and respect from those around us. We let our pride take precedence over pleasing the Lord and we are quick to offer a justification on why we do so. Can I just say that it is an excuse to sin not a justification? Just because you are Italian or Greek, soft-spoken, easily angered or not there is no place for sin. Pride creates discord. Pride works against meekness.
You maybe super friendly, giving, fun to be around but it you are also known for flying off the handle, becoming angry and stubborn people will always be wary of the next bought of discord you will be sure to stir up. It’s not an endearing quality. When you yield to the flesh in this way your disagreeable nature causes friction and you’ll soon find out that you are unable to get along with anyone.
7 questions to ask yourself to determine your level of meekness:
- Are you hard to get along with?
- Do you make excuses as to why you’re always fighting with someone?
- Do you like to take center stage?
- Do you give grace freely?
- Are you always at the center of discord?
- Are you loud and stubborn?
- Do you have a reputation for causing drama?
Can you answer them all honesty? Do any of them cause conviction or rub you the wrong way? Are you quick to offer an excuse as to why your answer is what it is? Are you meek or not?
You can not be Spirit led without meekness. It’s often one of the hardest fruits to yield to because it goes against our nature to it’s core. But we can learn to be meek and humble ourselves, to esteem others, to bear their burdens. Are you willing to put in the effort and stop excusing your sin?
Since I just love Young Living and the fact that they have an oil for everything (!!!) I thought it would be fun to give you an oil suggestion for each of the fruits of the Spirit. While we work towards changing our hearts to be aligned with God’s will and commands, there is an oil to help you move closer to that goal. There are a few oils that can help with meekness such as Humility, Acceptance, Friends but I want to share the one that fits this post the most-Release. Release is an oil that supports you to release the negative emotions inside you that cause you to be stubborn, prideful and aids in seeing others and situations in a better light. It’s the let it go oil! Send me an email to get yourself a bottle!