Did you know that longsuffering does not mean that you endure hardships for an extended period of time? Contrary to how it may sound! This fruit cuts deeper into what our heart looks like. Eventually, what’s on the inside will spill or spew out at some point. Let’s take a deeper look.
Longsuffering is an enduring temperament that expresses itself in patience with the shortcomings of others.
Longsuffering is how we react when others disturb our happy place. Either with a harsh statement, spreading a rumor, being unkind, inconvenience us, disappoint us or even forsake us. We will all naturally respond with some sort of strong feelings but its what you choose to do next, your reaction not necessarily your response, that determines whether you are yielding to this fruit. Do you retaliate with harsh words, gossip or find a way to stick to them in return?
It’s easy to spot someone who is longsuffering, while it is even easier to spot someone who is doing the exact opposite.
Quick-tempered is an irritability that negatively excites our passions.
We are quick-tempered when we react negatively to the shortcomings of others. Others may describe this type of person as one who has a short fuse.
This is counter-productive for those of who want to live a Spirit-led life. We want to be Christlike, but have mercy if that man is late for dinner one more time he can get a drive through! Amen?!
It’s hard to break that addiction. It’s hard to react with disappointment and even anger but if we lash out we’ve let our flesh win another battle. When we find ourselves snapping at every little thing, whether it’s that time of the month or not, we have a problem.
Jesus never lashed out, He never stopped serving despite the hurt and betrayal of others. He doesn’t lash out us when we mess up. He doesn’t give up on us. He has grace and mercy on us. He also wants us to do the same thing for those in our lives. We can be a gracious wife, a gracious mother, a gracious friend. We can even have grace throughout our trials. When we see others as God sees them when we see them as sinners in need of grace just as we are then it is much easier to extend grace when we want to be angry and lash out. Before we can show longsuffering towards others, we must realize how longsuffering God is to us.
Numbers 14:18 The LORD is longsuffering, and of great mercy, forgiving iniquity and transgression, and by no means clearing the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation.
We often let our true identity out when we are home with our family. Our heart is most revealed with those closest to us. We also tend to look for the shortcomings of those inside our home. We put down, criticize and flip out on those we are called to love and serve above anyone else. We are destroying our homes one quick-tempered moment at a time.
Does this all sound impossible? Are you wondering how on earth you are going to stay calm and not become unglued the next time your spouse disappoints you or your child strikes up another battle for the umpteenth (that’s a word, right?!) time today? It is impossible. It’s impossible in your own strength. Maybe even the thought to be calm and longsuffering seems out of reach for you, you need to remember that is an impossible feat to do without relying on God’s power to work through you. Sooner or later you will unlearn the quick-tempered habits that have formed. The more you yield to longsuffering the easier it becomes, almost like riding a bike.
It’s a good idea to note, that sometimes we are influenced by our hormone cycle, what foods we decided to fuel our bodies with and how much sleep we are getting. It so important to get enough sleep, eat nutritiously, drink enough water. Don’t use them as an excuse but be intentional about taking care of yourself so that you aren’t lashing out unnecessarily.
Since I just love Young Living and the fact that they have an oil for everything (!!!) I thought it would be fun to give you an oil suggestion for each of the fruits of the Spirit. While we work towards changing our hearts to be aligned with God’s will and commands, there is an oil to help you move closer to that goal. Ylang-ylang is an oil that supports you in being calm and relaxed, dispelling angry feelings. It can support emotional balance which can so helpful when you want to give in to a short fuse. Send me an email to get yourself a bottle!