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Little Girls and Modesty – 5 Tips

Gender equality. The biggest current events issue today. We have the government threatening to pull funding from schools if they do not comply. We have the threat of lawsuits constantly breathing down our necks. We have the LGBT activists pushing their agenda in the government, in schools, in churches and business. They are in control of America right now. That is why is vital to teach our little girls about modesty. Click to read more on why this is so important in this day and age.

Gender equality. The biggest current events issue today.

We have the government threatening to pull funding from schools if they do not comply. We have the threat of lawsuits constantly breathing down our necks.

We have the LGBT activists pushing their agenda in the government, in schools, in churches and business.

They are in control of America right now. They are shutting down businesses left and right with their demand to be treated as an equal.

But gender is not a feeling that comes and goes away. God created only 2 genders. There is male and female.  He did not create a spectrum. And He did not make a mistake when He chose the gender of each individual born into this world.

Genesis 5:2a  Male and female created he them; and blessed them, 

Girls and boys are different not only in name and chromosome but also in characteristics. It doesn’t mean that one is better than the other. It simply means we are different. I don’t know about you but I am thankful for those differences!

Today more than ever, Christian parents need to be teaching their little girls about modesty from an early age. We need to be teaching them how to act like a lady, dress like a lady, and protect themselves from the pedophiles who decided that morning that they identify as a woman to get into a bathroom of little girls.

Why? Because that day will come. That type of news story will hit the headlines eventually. We are putting our little girls and boys at risk when we deny the absolute truth that there are only 2 genders. If we don’t start teaching this while they are young we could be putting their safety at risk.

I don’t know about you, but I am proud to be a female. I love being a girl! And I want my little girl to feel the same way!

Modesty for Little Girls

Keep their Privates, Private

This sounds like a no-brainer. It sounds simple. Yet there are so many little girls out there running around in a dress with no underwear on underneath. Yes, even in a Christian setting. If parents don’t care enough about keeping their little girl’s privates private at 2 years old, why are they going to at 15 years old?

The Bible tells us not to be naked, to use clothing as a means to cover our nakedness. In the Bible we are told being fully clothed is from shoulders to knees.

Exodus 28:42  And thou shalt make them linen breeches to cover their nakedness; from the loins even unto the thighs they shall reach:

I don’t know about you, but when my daughter is wearing a skirt or dress to her knees on you can see her thighs even while wearing underwear. If she moves just so, you can see even more than you should. Since it is our duty to keep her safe and teach her to be modest, we have taught her that even in a dress or skirt we still wear shorts underneath. Why? To keep the privates, private. We have taught her this phrase in her toddlerhood so that it becomes the norm for her later.

If we aren’t diligent about teaching this to our little girls early they will see no reason for our “rules” down the line.

Gender equality. The biggest current events issue today. We have the government threatening to pull funding from schools if they do not comply. We have the threat of lawsuits constantly breathing down our necks. We have the LGBT activists pushing their agenda in the government, in schools, in churches and business. They are in control of America right now. That is why is vital to teach our little girls about modesty. Click to read more on why this is so important in this day and age.

Longer is Better

Little girls are active! If we put on a skirt or dress that just barely hits their knees when they are playing or sitting it is going to ride up, exposing more than needs to be seen.

What’s the harm, you say? They are only toddlers, so young that it doesn’t matter yet. I say because we are teaching a way of life; that this is how we do things in order to obey God and please Him. If it is apart of their everyday life then they won’t fight your rules down the line. Yes, at some point you need to teach the reason behind the rule but if they are used to it already that part comes easy.

And really folks, if we aren’t teaching them to be modest we are opening them up to a world of hurt if a child predator has just a few minutes alone with them (especially in our new bathroom policy culture!). Stuff like this happens anywhere. We can never be too careful.

We like to have our daughter’s clothing be well below her knees as much as possible to compensate for the activity level and being held. And if all else fails, she always has shorts, leggings or tights on to keep things covered up.

Keep the Skirt/Dress Down

It seems like every little girl likes to put her hands in her pockets and lift up her dress or skirt. Am I right? Or they like to sit in a way that shows everything underneath. We have to teach them the habit of keeping their dress down and to sit nicely from early on.

While it may not seem fair that we have to do this with the girls and not the boys, I got back to my early statement that girls and boys are different. I have to teach my boys to stop talking about farts and poop at the dinner table while I don’t have to do so with my daughter. There are different manners that need to be taught to different genders.

What about Pants?

Pants versus skirts in the modesty debate is a big one. We each need to search out the matter for ourselves in the Scripture and make our own conviction based on how the Lord leads your family.

We chose to wear skirts year round.

But I have seen women and girls make jeans modest for their family. Do I think that skin tight jeans are modest? No. But I think there are some styles out there that can be made to be modest. That is why this is an individual conviction. God didn’t say “thou shalt not wear jeans or shorts”.  He left it up to our discretion.

I think we should be more concerned about the heart versus the jeans versus skirts debate.  Honestly, I’d rather see a little girl in jeans at the park than in a skirt with nothing else on underneath. Amen?

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Teach the Why

We can’t forget to teach our daughter’s the why behind the reason we have our convictions and rules. We can’t fail in teaching them that they are precious to God and that precious things are worth taking care of.

We need to teach them that being a girl is awesome and fun! We need to help them grow up into confident young ladies who can keep themselves modest and who value their purity.

If we fail at this, then we’ve missed the mark. Once they get older, teach them the why.

 

We need to teach them that they are different from boys. We don’t need to let the transgender movement warp the minds of little girls. There is value in being a girl. If we won’t take the time to teach them these values you better believe that culture will teach them the opposite. We are in a fight, don’t give up and take the easy way.

 

Your turn! How are you teaching your little girl to be modest? What age do you start teaching her the reasons behind why we do certain things? I look forward to hearing everyone’s ideas and insights! Let’s chat in the comments below!

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20 Comments

  • Reply
    Hannah Christensen
    June 10, 2016 at 6:13 pm

    Great post! I love the line about how God doe snot make mistakes when giving each person a certain gender. Thanks for the reminder about little girls wearing shorts underneath their dresses. I need to do a better job about remembering that when I dress up my little girls for Sunday! Visiting from lovelylittlelives.com and Counting my blessings link up

    • Reply
      Anastasia Safee
      June 12, 2016 at 4:29 pm

      It’s so easy to forget once they start dressing themselves. Thankfully our Little Lady has caught on. Once it’s a habit I’m sure yours will as well.

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    liz
    June 13, 2016 at 9:19 am

    I’ve got boys but there are good lessons for them here, as well! Thanks for sharing!

    • Reply
      Anastasia Safee
      June 19, 2016 at 2:22 pm

      Ahh yes, we can’t forget about the boys. Good point.

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    Krystal @ Little Light on a Hill
    June 14, 2016 at 12:04 pm

    What a refreshing read! There are not enough women modeling this for our young girls. Let’s teach our girls what true beauty looks like. 🙂 Thanks for the read!!

    • Reply
      Anastasia Safee
      June 19, 2016 at 2:26 pm

      Oh I so agree! It is sad really how far America has slipped. So glad you stopped by!

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    Brandi Raae
    June 14, 2016 at 12:25 pm

    While we are not an all year-round-skirt-wearing family, modesty is definitely a subject that is on my heart and mind lately. Thank you for being bold and sharing a not-so-popular conviction. 🙂

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      Anastasia Safee
      June 19, 2016 at 2:28 pm

      In today’s society, it’s on a lot of our minds. It’s mindblowing what the big box stores have to offer for us to dress our little girls in. Craziness!

      Thank you for the encouragement!

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    Joy
    June 14, 2016 at 1:27 pm

    Thought-provoking post. I don’t have daughters but as a teen boy’s mom, I can appreciate the emphasis on modesty all-around! #RaRaLinkup

    • Reply
      Anastasia Safee
      June 19, 2016 at 2:29 pm

      Good point! I’m sure a lot of Christian teen boys would prefer more girls to take modesty more seriously. Or at least I hope they would, I hope mine do! We can’t forget to teach our boys about the subject either, you’re right!

  • Reply
    Chizobam
    June 14, 2016 at 5:54 pm

    I teach my daughters that their bodies belong to the Lord and I make them wear leggings and shorts under their skirts and dresses always.
    Great post on modesty.

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    Ruthie Gray
    June 14, 2016 at 9:04 pm

    I especially loved your introduction. You present a very valid case for why we should be so concerned over this whole bathroom thing. And yes, it’s so important to teach our daughters modesty. I raised three, and I only had to fight with one of them on this issue, thank God. “Well so-and-so wears belly shirts” I heard every day. “Well I’m not so-and-so’s mom, I’m your mom and you’re not wearing that”. The way our daughters dress reflects how we teach them, and not only that, but foreshadows how they will turn out.

    Your kids are cute, btw and I loved the comment about farts and poop at the table. Although I only had one boy, he more than made up for the potty talk. Drove me bananas.

    Thanks for always stopping by Tuesday Talk, gal!

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      Anastasia Safee
      June 19, 2016 at 2:31 pm

      Isn’t it amazing how peer pressure from friends has such a strong influence over teenagers? I remember it being that way in my teenage years.

      Ah yes, the joys of boys! A nightly phrase at the dinner table is “enough poop talk”. Goodness! 😉

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    angie
    June 15, 2016 at 5:22 pm

    I agree being modest is what makes them little girls and little boys. We should protect our children ensuring that they are covered up. We wear shorts under our shorter dresses and prefer longer dresses
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    Carolina
    June 15, 2016 at 6:32 pm

    Great post! Love the reminders. It is always something on my mind with my daughter. But I have to say that I equally teach my boys the importance of modesty. They always have shirts on and wear modest shorts or jeans as with certain modern boy fashions it is also easy to sexual how they dress. I feel like I am always on guard to protect all of them.

    Carolina

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      Anastasia Safee
      June 19, 2016 at 2:34 pm

      Such a good point that many others brought up as well. We always make our boys wear shirts, even swimming. Mine are only allowed to wear pants, which I’m sure someday soon they will try to buck up against that, ha! You’re right, it is our job to protect them.

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    Emily
    June 29, 2016 at 2:36 pm

    I have a little boy, but I work in the church nursery with 2 year olds. I am constantly telling the girls that wear skirts to pull their dresses down. You are right. They have to be taught! Another thing I would add is pictures on social media. My husband and I are very careful to post pictures of our son only when he is fully clothed. It doesn’t take much for a sicko to hack accounts and find these pictures of our kids!

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      Anastasia Safee
      July 10, 2016 at 3:12 pm

      Oh yes, I so agree!! We have to be diligent at protecting our children’s innocence. We are living in such scary times through this digital age.

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