Marriage is a beautiful thing. It’s also a hard thing. It’s not for the faint of heart. Marriage will get messy.
Have you noticed that marriages are falling apart left and right? Even in the Christian circle!
Just because we are Christians doesn’t mean that we are immune to divorce or hard times in our marriages.
I don’t know about you but this startling fact scares me. It rattles me to my core when I see another Christian marriage end in divorce. It makes it hard for me to focus on my daily tasks at hand. It makes me nervous and jittery for days. I can’t get it out of my mind.
Growing up in church, you’re told that if you do things the Bible way, God’s way then you will reap the benefits as an adult. You’ll have a happy marriage and successful life if you’re following God’s direction. Seems like an easy math problem to follow to get the correct answer, right? I was all for it. Sign me right up!
Yet as an adult, I’m watching all of these church people who had an influence over me as a young girl, teenager and young adult end in a bitter divorce. It’s gets to me every time. If it could happen to them than certainty it could happen to me!
None of us are above it. The Bible warns of us being judgmental and prideful when we are watching others.
Ye therefore, beloved, seeing ye know these things before, beware lest ye also, being led away with the error of the wicked, fall from your own stedfastness. 2 Peter 3:17
You see, we only see the outside of these marriages. We don’t get to see their day to day interaction or if they are truly walking with the Lord. This is key to remember!
Happy, healthy, beautiful marriages take work. They take us being intentional day in and day out.
Because of that fact, I love to read books on marriage. I love to fill my mind with ways to make my marriage heavenly. I don’t think we should ever stop growing in this area because it is easier than we realize to stray.
Messy Beautiful Love by Darlene Schacht, of the Time-Warp Wife blog, wrote one of the most captivating and down to earth books on marriage that I have ever read. It is on my top 3 books on marriage list. I have had the book for just over 6 months and I have read through it 3 times already. It is that good.
Darlene’s personal story of infidelity coupled with the amazing grace and forgiveness that her husband gave to her is such a beautiful yet messy story. Her honesty and real life stories draw you right in. She gives you a real life glimpse into their life as she tells her marriage story.
You aren’t reading a marriage book from someone who’s not married and has a PhD. You’re reading about a real woman with a real marriage. You’re reading her mess and you’re reading her beautiful. Because that’s what we all have. We all have real life marriage with ups and downs.
You will find yourself relating over and over again to her stories. The book is jam-packed with so much wisdom. Every time I read it I’m gaining more wisdom.
Darlene gives you advice on how to get through the messy and fight for the beautiful.
One huge take away I get from this book every time I read it is not taking your man for granted, what if one day he didn’t come home from work? Living out each and every day with that focus in mind changes your whole outlook on your marriage. Picking up his dirty clothes won’t be a bother, now will they?
She teaches you how important it is to give your man grace; to over look his annoying tendencies because one day he may not be there.
Sacrificial love is key to a thriving marriage. You’ll learn the why and the how to walk in humility each day in your marriage. You won’t want to put this book down.
Darlene’s down to earth writing style makes you read through this great book so quickly. You won’t regret picking up a copy!
We are all going to have messy times, it’s simply inevitable. We married a sinner and we are a sinner ourselves. We all need grace and Darlene shows you how to give it in practical ways.
I want to encourage you to be intentional in your marriage, don’t take your man for granted and sacrificially serve him. This is the formula for a long lasting marriage.
It’s not an A+B=C formula. Just because you’re a Christian and go to church doesn’t mean your marriage will stand against the attacks of the devil. You have to constantly be working at, constantly keeping yourself at the foot of the cross, constantly humbling yourself and offering grace to your man.
God will bless your effort. You will reap the benefits of that lifestyle. You will have a love story that is full of beauty with only a little mess mixed in.
Don’t squander away your marriage. Protect it. Cultivate it.
I hope you will grab a copy of this powerful book and start being intentional in your marriage today!
Your turn! Have you read Messy Beautiful Love? Which book on marriage would you recommend to others in our community?
This post may be linked up with any of these blogs.