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Loving Others by Losing Yourself

Loving others by losing yourself. This goes against today's culture. But it is what we need to do in order to love others well. Learn how you can love others well in 5 simple steps.

If you’ve fallen behind or are just joining us in our study of Galatians, let me catch you up to speed.

In chapter one, we saw that Paul admonished the Galatians to examine who they are seeking to please, God or man? Are we willing to stand alone when the time comes? Are we willing to do right even in the face of adversity?

In chapter two, we looked deeper at how to be a good influence. We saw how Peter became more concerned with what others thought of him and how that caused others to follow his example. It is so important to live out what we believe, in private and in public.

Then in chapter three, we talked about 6 concrete ways to grow your faith. We need to be growing, learning and drawing closer to God. When you feel like you have no faith left, there is hope! Be sure to check out that post to keep growing in your faith.

And just last week, we hit on the touchy subject of speaking the truth in love and why it is so important for our relationships to flourish. We need to have both grace and truth when we need to have a serious discussion with others. This post will give you the tools that you need in doing just that!

That brings us to chapter 5 this week. Today I felt the Lord leading to me to verses 13 and 14.

For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another. For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. Galatians‬ ‭5‬:‭13-14‬

Paul tells us that while we do have liberty in Christ, we need to use that liberty for the good of loving others well and not for our own fleshly desires.

Loving others well can be quite the challenge for people. We are sinful creatures full of pride. People are seeking their own happiness while not being focused on the needs of others.

Yet so many people today feel empty, they struggle with depression and are critical of everyone and everything around them. And caught in the comparison trap all too often.

If we took the time to take our eyes off ourselves, we could see the path to true happiness and joy in life. It doesn’t come from increasing your self-esteem or keeping up with the Jones’ next door.


Loving Others by Losing Yourself

Kick the critical spirit to the curb!

This has got to be the first thing you do. Being critical makes you judge everyone and every circumstance around you. It will hold you back from loving others well.

Being critical will have you negatively judging people before you even give them a chance.

Ask the Lord to help you kick this spirit to the curb!

Humble yourself.

There it is. Pretty simple. Yet so important.

For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith. Romans‬ ‭12‬:3

Pray for others.

When you love others well, you will be praying for them.

Their needs become important to you.

You will rejoice when they rejoice and mourn when they mourn.

You will become invested in their lives.

If you have a conflict with someone, pray for them. This is when God softens your heart towards them.

Loving others by losing yourself. This goes against today's culture. But it is what we need to do in order to love others well. Learn how you can love others well in 5 simple steps.

Look for ways to bless others.

We are the hands and feet of Jesus. He uses us to help others, to show His love to the lost world, to meet needs and to serve those around us.

You can love others well even if you don’t have a lot of extra time or resources.

You can send someone an encouraging card in the mail or a simple text, offer to babysit for free, or by bring a meal to someone in need.

You can take the time to talk to the older people in your church or the shy visitor in the corner. Being compassionate goes a long way!

Maybe there is a ministry in your church that you can serve in. Serving is a fantastic way to be a blessing to people.

Live out the fruits of the Spirit.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. Galatians‬ ‭5‬:‭22-23

When we are growing in each of these areas we are loving others above ourselves.

To be meek and self-controlled in the midst of a struggle blesses those around you.

Pick one or two and work on them every day. Once they become natural for you, add another. We aren’t super women here, we can’t do it all or all at once-this sets ourselves up for failure straight from the start.

Loving others well takes us losing ourselves in the process. Loving others well takes practice, it stretches us past our comfort zones and will eventually become a natural thing that we do. I hope you’re encouraged today to love others well in your life!


Your turn!  How do you love others well? What did you get out of Galatians chapter 5 this week?  I’d love to hear!

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    October 12, 2015 at 1:46 pm

    Great thoughts, Ana! I especially want to work on being humble. That’s something God’s convicted me of on many occasions. Thanks also for the challenge to focus on God’s word as our guide.

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      Anastasia Safee
      October 13, 2015 at 1:18 am

      Same here Beth, pride always rears its ugly head. Yet it leaves such damage in the process. Glad you stopped by today!

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    Michele Morin
    October 14, 2015 at 12:11 pm

    I love the dandelion theme throughout — so pretty and appropriate. This is a hard truth that Paul is giving us in Galatians. Amy Carmichael used to confront her workers in the orphanage, when they would come to her with some complaint, with these words: “See in it a chance to die.” I try to say those words to myself when I’m feeling like someone has “inconvenienced” me.

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      Anastasia Safee
      October 15, 2015 at 1:14 am

      Thank you, I thought those pictures were so pretty. 🙂 That is one convicting quote, I need to write that down and put it up somewhere as a reminder!

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    Mary Dolan Flaherty
    October 14, 2015 at 1:23 pm

    Such good points. There is a fine line between learning to love yourself and learning to lose yourself. We really cannot love our neighbor as ourselves unless we learn to love ourselves. And to do that, we really need to stop comparing, as you said. But too much and we become introspective, self-centered and self-absorbed. I’ve been concentrating on getting physically healthy lately, and I actually asked God today if I was becoming too self-absorbed and He told me that in order to care for others, I must first care for myself. We’re no good to our neighbor if we’re not living a holy life. Another great post Anastasia.

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      Anastasia Safee
      October 15, 2015 at 1:17 am

      So true, Mary. There is such a fine line but I believe when we are actively trying to not cross that line that we are less likely too. We can’t help others well without helping our self first, I agree. Like you, I have been trying this year to get healthier and take time to make my body stronger. It makes all the difference in the world.

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    Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom
    October 14, 2015 at 2:52 pm

    This was such a lovely and helpful post.

    Praying for others is so important. I find though it’s so easy to pray and then forget that you wanted to pray for someone. I recently got into the habit of telling myself – if I’m going to say I’ll pray, I need to do so immediately. I find it much easier to remember that promise of prayer when you’ve already done it. I also have a journal where I document a different person who’s my focus of prayer for the day. It’s an amazing help for my scattered brain!

    Thanks for sharing.

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      Anastasia Safee
      October 15, 2015 at 1:19 am

      Thank you! Same here, I feel so bad when I say I will pray and then forget. It is definitely helpful for the scatterbrained syndrome to pray instantly or as soon as I possible can!

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    October 14, 2015 at 4:17 pm

    Visited your site through the #TellHisStory linkup and so glad I did. I love the book of Galatians and your post for Chapter 5. We indeed will love others more purely when we lose ourselves. Thank you for your encouraging and convicting words today.

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      Anastasia Safee
      October 15, 2015 at 1:21 am

      I’m so glad you stopped by and joined in the conversation today! It was a blessing to me. I believe this is a lesson we can all use in our lives!

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    Elizabeth Stewart
    October 15, 2015 at 3:13 am

    I’m so happy to be here from Holley’s! A good word from one of my favorite books of the Bible!

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    Ifeoma Samuel
    October 15, 2015 at 8:57 am

    Hi Anastatsia, there are so many AHA! moments in this post!
    You careful broke down the bits and pieces of what it means to love someone. I find myself wanting in some and I will work harder in improving in many areas like taking out time to pray for those who really hurt others.
    The process of losing oneself is hard but not impossible. As we walk closer to God He draws us in.
    Blessings to you Anastasia

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      Anastasia Safee
      October 16, 2015 at 12:41 am

      Praying for those who have hurt you is such a hard yet powerful thing. Drawing closer to God will change our lives and how we love on others, I agree. Thanks for joining in on the conversation today!

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    October 15, 2015 at 12:16 pm

    Anastasia, what a lovely post. It’s so true that when others hurt us, prayer helps to soften our hearts toward them and the situation. Love the perspective that the Lord provides when we stop to pray. Thanks for sharing. 🙂 Happy to be neighboring you at the Thought Provoking linkup today. ((blessings))

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      Anastasia Safee
      October 16, 2015 at 12:42 am

      Praying this way is so powerful and effective! Thanks for hoping over today from the linkup!

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    October 15, 2015 at 6:02 pm

    I love your advice to pray for those we have conflict with. Nothing can soften hearts like an unselfish prayer and service. 🙂

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      Anastasia Safee
      October 16, 2015 at 12:46 am

      So true, Heaven. Praying like this changes our own hearts. God is so good to change us in such an amazing and gentle way!

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    Julie Lefebure
    October 16, 2015 at 12:27 pm

    Goodness, I really needed your words today. So glad I stopped over from Deb’s! I tend to let my critical spirit rise up big every now and then, and lately it’s been awful. Thank you for your practical tips and truths. It’s the first time I’ve ever been to your blog. It’s lovely. Have a blessed day!

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      Anastasia Safee
      October 17, 2015 at 6:36 pm

      I often wonder why my son has an issue with a critical spirit and then realize who he is picking it up from. Ouch. I’m right there with you, Julie! I’m so glad you came over from Deb’s – I was blessed by your comment!

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    Horace Williams Jr
    October 16, 2015 at 12:51 pm

    Beautifully written and such good points regarding humility. God took drastic measures with myself and I am thankful for His loving reminders that He gives grace to the humble while opposing the proud. His loving kindness has changed my life and I pray that the changes that He is making in my life will impact those around me and encourage their hearts. Thank you again for sharing and may God bless you and yours!

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      Anastasia Safee
      October 17, 2015 at 6:42 pm

      Thank you so much for your kind words, Horace! “His loving reminders” – I love that! God is so good to us to change us to be used for His purpose and glory. Thanks for visiting!

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    Kathryn Shirey
    October 17, 2015 at 1:13 pm

    Great points here! What better way to love others – and turn our hearts toward love for others – than to pray for them.

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    Sandra J
    October 17, 2015 at 6:03 pm

    “Kick the critical spirit to the curb!” I love all your advice, particularly this. Competition and comparing are the worst enemies of love. When we are doing them, we can’t love – cause we’ve got our eyes on #1. Thanks for the rich post!

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      Anastasia Safee
      October 17, 2015 at 6:55 pm

      Yes, so true Sandra! We can’t love others well when our eyes are focused on ourselves. Thanks for joining in the conversation!

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    October 23, 2015 at 2:04 am

    Hi again, Ana! 🙂 Love this post!

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      Anastasia Safee
      October 23, 2015 at 7:48 pm

      Aw, thank you Jenn. You encouraged me so much with your comments!

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