Can anyone relate to how it feels when you are planning out your homeschool year and you idealize how it will go? It will be filled with tons of fun, crafts, science projects, calm and peaceful hours of school that then leads to a peaceful rest of the day. We will do morning time every school day to enjoy the great literature and listen to beautiful calm music all before 10am. Then the school year gets going and once the newness wears off, the attitudes rise up, then we begin to just want to get school done and call it a day. Schooling becomes stressful, the mess becomes chaotic and mama has lost her joy in the midst of the schooling, training, and disciple. And we won’t even bring up the laundry pile haunting us. Who’s with me?
We usually start off with grand ideas and then reality gives us a kick in the pants. The kids are unruly. No one can find a sharpened pencil. All of the crayons are broken. The markers are dried out because little toddlers got a hold of them, again. And where did we even set the teacher’s guide from the other day?? You feel yourself losing your cool more than you are smiling. You are snappy with the lack of progress everyone is making in their books. The unorganized mess makes you feel out of control. We just need to get through the day, then they can go off and play while we catch up on the laundry.
I am always amazed how much our words affect our homeschool time. Well, the whole day really!
Wives have such influence over our household. Not only in how it is run but also in the atmosphere within our walls. Our children will reflect whatever attitude we are putting out there. The last thing we need is snappy children snapping at a snappy mama! That doesn’t sound like a joy filled homeschool experience! And it certainly not what we envisioned when we started out.
We can either build up our homes or tear it down. All with our tongue.
Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. Proverbs 14:1
We can make or break our day with how we decide to use our words.
If we use them for good, for encouraging our children then we will bring joy into our homeschool.
A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season, how good is it! Proverbs 15:23
If we use a soft answer, we can bring joy into our homeschool.
What if we calmly took a break from the books and made a ten minute clean up a game so we could calm the chaos? We will surely find more joy in our homeschool.
What if we decided to breathe, rephrase our instructions, or break them down into smaller pieces for our little ones to understand? Imagine how joyful the day would be.
What if we decided to choose our words more wisely so that we are breathing life into our children and not discouraging them with our lack of patience? How much more joy would there be in the school room? Our words make that big of an impact, mama.
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. Proverbs 15:1
Children are more responsive and quicker to listen when we are not losing our cool, yelling or snapping. When we exhibit those behaviors our kids tune us out, often making us feel like we need to raise our voice even more. When in reality we need to lower our voices and watch our tone. Doing so will be sure to make more of an impact.
Maybe the lack of organization makes you lose it. If so, then I encourage you to get the piles under control. Set up some organizational system that is going to work for you. I know that your children would prefer a joyful mama instead of a frazzled one during school.
Maybe your children need some training on certain behaviors that frustrate you during school? Take some time to train the behavior that you want to see so that your school day can continue with a peaceful mama.
Maybe you’ve fallen behind or children need to take a subject more slowly, then you need to give yourself grace and go at your children’s pace and say goodbye to your expectations. Bring back some of that fun!
When we choose a soft answer, we are bringing joy into our homes. Let’s start being more purposeful with our tongue. If things need to change for you to be able to control your words, then make those changes, quickly!
Let’s intentionally be mindful of how we are speaking to our kids during school so that we can bring more joy into our schooling and our days!
Your turn! Have you seen the power that your words can make in your schooling? Let’s chat in the comments below!
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