Encouragement/ Helpmeet

How to Thrive being Married to a Visionary Man

Every husband is different. Do you understand your man? Or are you too busy pining away for something that he's not or wishing he was more like your best friend's husband? Ladies, it's time to stop this way of thinking and start learning how to thrive as the wife to the man we married. Find out how you can thrive being married to a visionary man.

When my husband and I married, I married a pharmacist, not an entrepreneur. I tell my husband and close friends this all the time. I never expected that in a short number of years my husband would become an entrepreneur. It still baffles me when I think about it. Life certainly hasn’t turned out the way I expected it. Being married to a visionary man, Mr. Visionary as Debi Pearl names in him in her book, Created to Be His Helpmeet, has its challenges and its blessings.

What exactly is a visionary man? These men are the shakers, changers, and dreamers of society, says Debi. They are investors and entrepreneurs. They always have a new idea brewing, they love thinking over new ideas, plans, and dreams. Does that sound like your man? It sounds like mine!

If you are like me and you are married to one of these visionary men, then you understand the ups and the downs. Are you thriving in your marriage? Are you a joyful wife ready to go along for the crazy ride with your man? Or are you bitter and full of anger at where his vision(s) have taken your family? You can only take one path, which one are you on?

Enjoy the ride.

I love this advice from Debi in her book. You have to purpose in your heart that you are going to enjoy whatever crazy adventure your husband decides to take you on. Happiness isn’t a destination it’s a state of mind. You can choose your attitude and responses in life. I love Crystal’s post on choosing joy when life is hard. Let’s face it, being married to a visionary can make for some hard days but we don’t have to wallow in it.

Do you think I’ve enjoyed having no money for diapers and groceries many times over the years? Do you think it’s fun not to have health insurance for nearly 3 years? Not at all. Friend, it’s not all glamorous but it could’ve been much worse if my attitude was different. Our men have enough on their shoulders and they don’t need us complaining and being angry at them all the time due to their choice of following their vision. Have I always had a good attitude, 100% of the time? Absolutely not! I’m human, I’ve failed but I’ve learned to just enjoy the ride because it did no good except to make my husband upset and more stressed out. It’s a season and like all seasons, it ends.

Choose joy.

Every husband is different. Do you understand your man? Or are you too busy pining away for something that he's not or wishing he was more like your best friend's husband? Ladies, it's time to stop this way of thinking and start learning how to thrive as the wife to the man we married. Find out how you can thrive being married to a visionary man.

We recently bought a commercial plaza, so again we are going through a tough financial time as we recover from the initial purchase hit. But ya know what, I’ve done this twice already with a Subway franchise and an independent pharmacy. I trust my man, I trust his vision and I’ve seen how we’ve come out on the other side before. Which leads me into the next point, trust.

Trust your man.

Do you really think your husband plans on going through tough financial times? Probably not. Do you think he plans on making you anxious, angry or unhappy? Probably not.

While you may think his plan is crazy, he may feel much differently. God is using your husband and his crazy plans, trust God and trust your man.

Get on board and be his helpmeet.

Don’t fight him. Don’t fight with him. Don’t fight his plan and ideas. Don’t get angry when it’s not what you want or if it turns out poorly.

Your husband will be more successful and less stressed knowing that his wife is behind him, supporting him and helping him achieve his dreams.

Support him anyway that you can.

Be his biggest fan and loudest cheerleader.

Tell him over and over again how much you love and support him. It does a man good!

Don’t be a killjoy. We all know how much fun those kind of people are. Amen?

 

You don’t have to be miserable if you are married to a visionary. You just have to learn to embrace it and enjoy it. God is at work in your husband’s life and his crazy plans. God is also at work changing your heart and your attitude. Trust your husband and what he is doing and trust God to take care of it all while you enjoy the ride and cheer your husband on to success in whatever crazy plan he’s working on, at the moment.

For a deeper study, be sure to check out the book! In the coming weeks, we are going to look at the other 2 types of men and finish off with a book review!

created to be his helpmeet by debi pearl

Your turn! Are you married to a Mr. Visionary? Has it been a struggle or have you enjoyed all of the adventures? Let’s chat in the comments below!

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6 Comments

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    Dan
    August 5, 2016 at 8:12 pm

    After seeing your blog grow over the last year or so, I’m beginning to wonder if I’m not married to a visionary wife 😉

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    Erica
    September 25, 2016 at 11:30 pm

    This is so my husband. WOW! A visionary.

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    Mama2girls
    September 26, 2016 at 3:48 pm

    I have realized I am very much married to a visionary… I’m not even sure that’s who he was when we met and married, but it is definitely who God is shaping him to be! I am trying to learn and grow in this because, let’s be honest , I think most of us who find ourselves marries to visionaries would not have chosen it had we known they were such before we married them BUT that is the beauty of what God does when he blends two people together in marriage!!!
    My question: our struggle in our marriage is that he forgets about me often. His “other woman” is whatever the next thing is that he is chasing and even though I try everything I can to find ways myself and our kids can be with him, help him, work along side him, there are few times this can happen. Is this just something I should let go of?

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      Anastasia Safee
      October 4, 2016 at 4:11 pm

      Yes, my husband was not this way when we were first married. God has definitely shaped him to be this way in the last 5 years.

      When my husband starts to get that way, where he is totally engulfed in his newest venture, then I try to gently share my heart with him. I haven’t always been so gentle, but when I do the conversation goes much much better. He will quickly realize that I’m right and he rearranges things to spend more time with me and the family as best he can. Hope that helps!

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