When my husband and I married, I married a pharmacist, not an entrepreneur. I tell my husband and close friends this all the time. I never expected that in a short number of years my husband would become an entrepreneur. It still baffles me when I think about it. Life certainly hasn’t turned out the way I expected it. Being married to a visionary man, Mr. Visionary as Debi Pearl names in him in her book, Created to Be His Helpmeet, has its challenges and its blessings.
What exactly is a visionary man? These men are the shakers, changers, and dreamers of society, says Debi. They are investors and entrepreneurs. They always have a new idea brewing, they love thinking over new ideas, plans, and dreams. Does that sound like your man? It sounds like mine!
If you are like me and you are married to one of these visionary men, then you understand the ups and the downs. Are you thriving in your marriage? Are you a joyful wife ready to go along for the crazy ride with your man? Or are you bitter and full of anger at where his vision(s) have taken your family? You can only take one path, which one are you on?
Enjoy the ride.
I love this advice from Debi in her book. You have to purpose in your heart that you are going to enjoy whatever crazy adventure your husband decides to take you on. Happiness isn’t a destination it’s a state of mind. You can choose your attitude and responses in life. I love Crystal’s post on choosing joy when life is hard. Let’s face it, being married to a visionary can make for some hard days but we don’t have to wallow in it.
Do you think I’ve enjoyed having no money for diapers and groceries many times over the years? Do you think it’s fun not to have health insurance for nearly 3 years? Not at all. Friend, it’s not all glamorous but it could’ve been much worse if my attitude was different. Our men have enough on their shoulders and they don’t need us complaining and being angry at them all the time due to their choice of following their vision. Have I always had a good attitude, 100% of the time? Absolutely not! I’m human, I’ve failed but I’ve learned to just enjoy the ride because it did no good except to make my husband upset and more stressed out. It’s a season and like all seasons, it ends.
We recently bought a commercial plaza, so again we are going through a tough financial time as we recover from the initial purchase hit. But ya know what, I’ve done this twice already with a Subway franchise and an independent pharmacy. I trust my man, I trust his vision and I’ve seen how we’ve come out on the other side before. Which leads me into the next point, trust.
Trust your man.
Do you really think your husband plans on going through tough financial times? Probably not. Do you think he plans on making you anxious, angry or unhappy? Probably not.
While you may think his plan is crazy, he may feel much differently. God is using your husband and his crazy plans, trust God and trust your man.
Get on board and be his helpmeet.
Don’t fight him. Don’t fight with him. Don’t fight his plan and ideas. Don’t get angry when it’s not what you want or if it turns out poorly.
Your husband will be more successful and less stressed knowing that his wife is behind him, supporting him and helping him achieve his dreams.
Support him anyway that you can.
Be his biggest fan and loudest cheerleader.
Tell him over and over again how much you love and support him. It does a man good!
Don’t be a killjoy. We all know how much fun those kind of people are. Amen?
You don’t have to be miserable if you are married to a visionary. You just have to learn to embrace it and enjoy it. God is at work in your husband’s life and his crazy plans. God is also at work changing your heart and your attitude. Trust your husband and what he is doing and trust God to take care of it all while you enjoy the ride and cheer your husband on to success in whatever crazy plan he’s working on, at the moment.
For a deeper study, be sure to check out the book! In the coming weeks, we are going to look at the other 2 types of men and finish off with a book review!
Your turn! Are you married to a Mr. Visionary? Has it been a struggle or have you enjoyed all of the adventures? Let’s chat in the comments below!
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