Today I am thrilled to introduce you to my wonderful in real life friend and cousin, Rebecca! She has been the faithful and blessed wife of Michael, a man who falls into the Mr. Steady category. Rebecca and Mike are the perfect match and compliment each other’s personality so well, I knew she was the best person to share on being the wife of this type of man. Here is her experience with being married to a Mr. Steady.
In my experience being married to a Mr. Steady is a peaceful way of life. He is someone I can always depend on, he doesn’t bring contention to our family, our children know what he will expect out of them, and they know how he will react in certain circumstances, as do I. I don’t have to hold my breath wondering what’s going to happen when he hears about this, or when someone says that to him.
It is not “boring” to be married to a Mr. Steady, as some women might complain. If I wanted to live a wild, crazy life I wouldn’t have married the type of man I did. I am not a wild crazy person so this suits me just fine. I like things to be consistent and routine. There are times that I’d like to do more activities than we may be doing, so I discuss it with my husband and you know what? If it is something that is important to me- we end up doing it! My advice: Instead of complaining that you don’t get out and do fun things- why not just approach your husband and bring it before him? Maybe he’s just never thought of the idea of doing that certain thing.
He is slow to get angry with others, which is one of my struggles. Sometimes I just want him to see the worst in people (like I can), but instead, he calmly will just tell me not to worry about it. He doesn’t let people’s opinions bother him. He is level headed, and a very godly man; strong in his faith, always learning more Bible and studying the Bible. He is someone I look up to and so do many others.
It is wonderful to know that he will always be able to provide for me. He’s hardworking and not just going to up and quit his job. I have never had to worry about if we will have enough money for groceries that month because my husband is very wise and saves, invests, and spends his money very carefully. We do not make large purchases that are unnecessary even though we have the ability to do so.
To the woman who is weary of being married to her “Mr. Steady,” look for the positives in your husband. You’re not perfect in every area of your life so don’t expect him to be perfect either! And lastly, don’t compare your husband to someone else’s husband.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Does this sound like the type of man you are married too? Are you finding it hard to embrace the man you married? You are not alone but you do not need to stay in this stuck place. You can thrive being married to Mr. Steady.
How to Thrive Being Married to a Mr. Steady Man
Embrace Who Your Man Is
It’s time to stop trying to change him, it’s time to stop trying to change him and instead embrace the man you married. When you stop thinking about all of the negative things about being married to your “boring” husband you can start being thankful for his steadiness. Choosing gratitude in your marriage can change you marriage!
Focus on Your Own Marriage
It does you no good pining away for your friend’s type of husband. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side of the fence. It turns green where you water it. Water your own marriage and remember that being married to a visionary or command man also comes with its own set of challenges.
Learn to Be Patient
Steady men need time to make up his mind on a decision. They are not rash in making any big (sometimes even little!) decisions. If you are the type to want an answer as soon as you ask, you will be disappointed on a continual basis. You need to learn to be patient and remember that his hesitation and pondering on something is not his indecision, it’s wisdom. Pray for him to have wisdom as you wait.
Steady men love knowing that their wife can handle the mundane tasks of daily life (Created to be His Helpmeet, pg. 90).
Don’t Take Him for Granted
When you are married to a reliable man, don’t take him and what he does for you for granted. Practice gratitude every day. Men love to be thanked.
If you are married to a Mr. Steady, you are married to a man that everyone needs in their life. They are the reliable men who show up to do the hard work that most other people shy away from. Don’t ruin it by comparing him to other men or being unthankful. Start being his crown and creating your own happy marriage!
Proverbs 12:4 A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.
Looking for a deeper look into thriving as a wife to a steady man? Be sure to check out the book! Be on the lookout for the full review next week!