So you want to be more organized with managing your home? You like the thought of it but you can’t figure out how to make it happen, right? Homemaking can seem daunting. It may feel like you can never get it all done smoothly. Homemaking just doesn’t work for you.
Routines give our homes structure and security to those who live within its walls.
You’re not going to be surprised when I tell you that managing your time better will lead to a more organized home and life. You already know this. You’ve tried to implement cleaning routines that others put out on the web and you’ve failed miserably at implementing them. You’ve tried to copy the blogger who seems to have it all together – if she does chores on Monday then surely, that works well and will work just wonderfully for you too.
But it doesn’t.
And with each new failure, it gets harder to try again.
I get it. I’ve done it too. I’ve printed off the free printables determined to make them work for my family. Determined that this time I would make her routine our routine.
But like you, I got nowhere. Yet I know if I could just get it together our household would run smoother. But the stress of knowing that I have to get each big task done in a day was like a huge weight on my shoulders. Clearly, this routine works if so and so uses it, I tell myself. I shame myself into not being good at it. I believe the lie that I can’t get my home in order, that it’ll never be as good as hers and I’ll always feel like a mess.
Mimicking other people’s routine is the biggest mistake you are making when trying to make your family routine.
Just because you read her blog, watch her Periscope (or Facebook Live) or that you see what works for their family on Instagram doesn’t mean that their system is going to work for your family.
Stop and read that last sentence again because it is KEY. I mean it.
Can you get some really great tips and inspiration? Of course! That’s why we blog!
But we want you to take what we say and tweak it to meet YOUR family’s lifestyle.
Someone else’s routine – whether it be their cleaning routine, laundry system, or cooking schedule – isn’t going to be a perfect fit for you. And when you try to squish you and your family into someone else’s schedule that’s when you are going to throw in the towel and give up on this whole idea of managing your time better. It clearly doesn’t work for you anyways.
But can I encourage you to sit down and write down all of the chores you want to get done in a week along with everything else you have to get done in a day along with any out of the house commitments you may have.
Then decide if you want to do one cleaning chore a day, clean when things get messy or do it all one day. You have to decide this for yourself. Are you out of the house most of the week? Then one cleaning day may work best for you. Are you home most of the week and the thought of cleaning everything in a day makes you want to never clean again? Then simply assign a chore or task to a day of the week-on a day that makes sense in your families schedule.
You have to have a rest day. God did, so why can’t we? When you are always on the go and always busy doing something or cleaning again and again then you are going to burn out and throw down that towel once again. You’ll only clean or organize only when it gets out of control.
Making plans for a home, after all, does not mean that everyone will always cooperate or follow those plans perfectly. Lifegiving Home pg. 44
You aren’t going to follow any routine or rhythm perfectly each week. Sometimes other things get in the way. Sometimes unexpected appointments, sickness or child training derails the day. Don’t throw in the towel yet! Double up tomorrow and keep going or skip the task that week and pick up again tomorrow. Just keep going, don’t tweak your routine until you’ve tried it for 3 weeks at least.
Sally shares so many of her family routines in the first chapter of her Lifegiving Home book. Her routine of her own personal morning devotions, saying something sweet and encouraging to each of her children as they come downstairs each morning to their dinner clean up routine. While I love the ideas I know that some won’t work for us but I’m not going to give up on the idea. It’s time to get your creative juices flowing on what types of routines you can implement for your family. Ones that will bring life into your home and not suck the life out of you as you try to be the next Sally Clarkson, amen? This is how you make homemaking work for you.