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How to Be a Good Influence 

Have you considered what kind of influence you have over others looking up to you? Learn how you can be a good influence in your circle of peers.

Do you realize how many people are looking up to you? People who want to be just like you. Whether you realize it or not you are influencing others around you. Are you being a good influence or a bad influence? Does it matter to you?

In chapter 2 of Galatians, we see that Paul is rebuking Peter for not fellowshipping with the Gentile Christians when the Jewish Christians joined in the group.

Peter knew that God’s love on the cross was to be extended to both groups, that the status of Greek or Jew made no difference in God’s eye. Therefore, Peter was okay with eating with the Gentiles but when Jewish people came into town he suddenly felt a lot less bold about the truth. He became more concerned about what the Jews would think of him now that he was befriending the Gentiles.

Because of his influence, many of the Jewish people followed Peter’s example.

Peter was preaching one thing but his actions did match up.

And the other Jews dissembled likewise with him; insomuch that Barnabas also was carried away with their dissimulation. Galatians‬ ‭2‬:‭13

We see how the choices Peter made in his life affected others. Barnabas was carried away and followed the crowd based on the influence of those around him.

Peter was leading Barnabas down a path that was making the law a part of salvation as if people could earn their way to heaven.

Paul boldly tells them that they are not justified by the law.

Knowing that a man is not justified by the works of the law, but by the faith of Jesus Christ, even we have believed in Jesus Christ, that we might be justified by the faith of Christ, and not by the works of the law: for by the works of the law shall no flesh be justified. Galatians‬ ‭2‬:‭16‬

We are only justified by our faith in Jesus Christ and His death. We cannot follow the law perfectly. That is why we need Jesus.

Peter was beginning to focus on what others thought of him and that caused him to make poor decisions. Which caused those following him to make those very same decisions.

It’s like a domino effect. What Peter did affected others. 

The same is true today. There is always someone watching us. Whether it’s our children, younger girls in our church or unsaved family members. We all have influence in our circles. 

Are we using that influence for good? Are we drawing people closer to God or pushing them away? 

Have you considered what kind of influence you have over others looking up to you? Learn how you can be a good influence in your circle of peers.

 

How to Be a Good Influence

Be friendly. 

People are drawn to a friendly, smiling face, someone who is cheerful and kind. In order to be worthy of having an influence, be friendly to others. 

Be compassionate. 

Others will watch your example when you are compassionate. Someone who is compassionate notices the needs of others and meets them with a caring attitude. Compassion cares not just about physical needs but emotional needs as well. Did a woman in your church lose a baby? Send her a card, a small gift, or some chocolate. Does someone in your church need a meal? Take them one! A friendly hug, a small note can all go a long way in cheering up others. 

Listening to others falls under this category. When we ask others about their lives and actually listen, it makes a difference. If you know someone has a sick family member, ask how things are going and genuinely listen, ask how you can help or pray for them.

People are drawn to others who care.

Be a servant. 

Someone with a compassionate heart will find ways to serve. A willing heart is the key. People will notice and be influenced.

Be bold. 

Take a stand when you are called to. Don’t waver in your faith in God. Don’t be ashamed of your faith. Tell others about Christ and what He has done in your life. Has God answered a prayer request-tell people! Did a verse stick out to you in your quiet time-tell people!  

There is an older, wiser woman who was in our church for many many years before relocating and she has had such an influence in my life over the years. She was always talking about godly things – how big and amazing our God is, sharing tidbits from her prayer life, Bible reading and giving practical advice.  She wasn’t shy or quiet about her life long walk with God. She had a God-given boldness.  I want to be just like her when I grow up! Surely, I’m not a grown up yet. I keep thinking that, right? 

Be consistent.  

Don’t live a double life. If you preach morality then you need to live our morality in your personal life. Your family is always watching you – inside your home and outside of it.  Don’t put on a godly woman facade on Sunday and then live in wickedness all week long. Your true heart will be revealed in God’s time. Those with whom you have had influence over may turn their backs on Christ because of how you lived your life. 

I hope that is not the case. We can apply Paul’s rebuke to Peter to our own lives. We all need to be reminded that someone is always watching us.

 

Your turn! What kind of influence do you hope to have on others? Have you given it much thought? I hope you will!

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18 Comments

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    Samantha
    September 21, 2015 at 5:06 pm

    I hope to be a positive influence towards the people around me, specifically my son. I hope my husband and I will set a great example of what the church should be like. Visiting over from #playdateswithgod.

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      Anastasia Safee
      September 22, 2015 at 12:24 am

      Isn’t amazing how having children bring us closer to God? Those little mirrors throughout the day bring out so many of our flaws that we need to get right and change.

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    Kim Sullivan
    September 22, 2015 at 6:27 pm

    I love this post! You are absolutely right. There is always someone watching and as difficult as it is, I need to keep that in mind. How we act and treat others effects those around us, even people we don’t know. I also like to keep in mind that God is always watching and then I evaluate if Jesus would be pleased with he behavior I am exhibiting. Thank for this great reminder!

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      Anastasia Safee
      September 23, 2015 at 7:20 pm

      Such a good point, Jesus is always there. That alone should make us want to live better lives. Thank you for pointing that out! I’m amazed at how much people who we don’t really know us are watching our behavior. Just yesterday we had a neighbor, who we don’t know, ask us why we chose the electric lawnmower over a gas one, he thought for sure it was because of our religion. That made us laugh! Of course that wasn’t our reason but it goes with your point, people are usually always watching our behavior whether we see them doing it or not.

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    Emily
    September 22, 2015 at 11:58 pm

    Thanks for sharing these practical ways to influence others for good. I try to be a cheerful person because I know I like to be around cheerful people as well. Lately, the Lord has been working on me being more bold and confident. Thank you for the reminder!

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      Anastasia Safee
      September 23, 2015 at 7:13 pm

      Such a good point. People will naturally gravitate towards others who are cheerful, so we should try to have that same quality in our own lives. So glad you stopped by!

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    Ruthie Gray
    September 23, 2015 at 12:35 am

    Thank you for your words of truth here today, and encouragement to seek opportunities to serve others and share our faith. I used to look up to the older, wiser women, and now I realize I am slowly coming into the position of one myself, and I pray I stay true to the course and the calling.
    Thanks for stopping by today, it’s always nice to meet a new friend!

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      Anastasia Safee
      September 23, 2015 at 7:11 pm

      It is so sad when the older generation caves into the pressures of the world after watching them for so many years. One day they are just gone from church! After growing up in the same church my whole life, I have seen it happen so many times. It’s so sad. I pray you stay the course as well Ruthie! The younger folk are watching. And I’m so glad I found your site-I’m loving it!

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    Susan Shipe
    September 23, 2015 at 1:48 pm

    Barnabas…a true servant and role model! Visiting from #106 at the #raralinkup!

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    Carolyn Henderson - This Woman Writes
    September 23, 2015 at 9:04 pm

    Being Compassionate — that’s a big one, and so meaningful in the lives of all of us. I have found that the difficult times in our lives — the ones we pray God will hurry up and get us through — are the best ones for instilling compassion. So many times there have been “Aha!” moments — “Ah. That’s why so-and-so does what she does. That’s why that person reacts the way he does.”

    I know that Paul says that the greatest of the three greats is Love, but I’m thinking that humility is probably one of the greatest lessons we can learn! (and the hardest)

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      Anastasia Safee
      September 25, 2015 at 12:22 am

      That is so true! God often uses those moments in our own lives to change us so that we can then help others in that same spot later down the road. So glad that He always has a bigger plan than what we can see in the moment!

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    Tasha Medellin
    September 24, 2015 at 9:47 pm

    So glad I stopped by! Great post! 🙂 I hope I can influence others to rest in God’s abundance grace and see themselves the way God sees them.

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      Anastasia Safee
      September 25, 2015 at 12:23 am

      Same here Tasha! Thanks for the kind words tonight-I’m glad you stopped by as well!

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    Rose @ Walnut Acre
    September 25, 2015 at 12:21 pm

    Thank you for this reminder to remember others are watching my life and it does have influence.

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    Jennifer @ A Divine Encounter
    October 1, 2015 at 8:21 pm

    This is such a good word, particularly for women. We’re a very influential group, aren’t we? From the Garden of Eden, we’ve been influencing the people in our lives, sometimes positively and sometimes negatively. Thank you for pointing us toward the Scriptures, and for sharing how we can use our influence for good! I’m glad you linked with us at Grace & Truth. 🙂

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      Anastasia Safee
      October 2, 2015 at 1:19 am

      Our influence makes such a big impact, whether we realize it or not!

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