Grace/ Holiness

How Grace Reveals Itself in the Way We Speak

How would people describe you? Are you known for being kind and gracious or critical and angry? These are questions I'm often asking myself. Learn how grace reveals itself in the way we speak to answer some of those questions.

Would the people in your life describe you as a gracious person? Would they say you speak with grace? Or would they describe you in a different light? What kind of impact am I making on the lives of those around me?

What kind of impact am I making on the lives of those around me? My husband, children, and friends.

These are questions that run through my head on a regular basis. I bet you do as well or else you wouldn’t be reading this or struggling with grace.

The way we talk and interact with others reveals the state of our heart. Angry, critical, judgmental or harsh words are probably adjectives that are used to describe most people out there. It is in our sin nature to act this way, to speak without grace and forget the amazing grace of God in our lives. Sadly, our flesh wins more than the Spirit.

It is a fact that we need the grace of God in our lives and we need to let it penetrate deep down into our souls and spill over into how we speak and act towards others.

As I strive to pursue holiness, I want grace to flow from my lips.

Colossians 4:6  Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.

Grace and kindness go hand in hand.

Throughout the verses this week we will see how grace and kindness are often linked together in the passages. It is hard to separate the two. It also makes sense that the two would go hand in hand. A kind person delights in contributing to the happiness of others.

Ephesians 2:7  That in the ages to come he might shew the exceeding riches of his grace in his kindness toward us through Christ Jesus.

Jesus was rich in his mercy, love, grace and kindness towards us even while we were yet sinners. How much more should we show others these same qualities? We are to follow His example after all.

Grace is full of goodness.

How would people describe you? Are you known for being kind and gracious or critical and angry? These are questions I'm often asking myself. Learn how grace reveals itself in the way we speak to answer some of those questions.

Having God’s grace in our lives teaches us to do good to others. To speak goodness to and about others.

Whether or not people deserve it, we can still be full of goodness towards them. We can bite our tongue, we can think more highly of them than we do of ourselves.

Philippians 2:3b but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.

We don’t always have to say what’s on our minds, we don’t always have to give critical feedback, we don’t always have to have the last word.

Grace cannot happen without humility.

How can we be full of goodness and kindness to show grace? Through humility.

Without humbling ourselves we cannot speak graciously.

What’s the point?

Why even bother? It is hard. I know it, you know it. We fail more than we succeed. We snap at our husband, our kids, and friends more than we want to. Sometimes it seems unachievable. The goal is high but we shouldn’t keep that from stopping us. We are told in Psalm 45: 1-2 that we will be blessed when our lips are covered in grace. I don’t know about you, but I want that blessing. I would rather die trying than to have lived a life without God’s blessing.

Psalm 45:2  Thou art fairer than the children of men: grace is poured into thy lips: therefore God hath blessed thee for ever. 

We are warned in Hebrews that we can fail at having the grace of God. That’s a scary thought. Matthew Henry describes it this way, “where persons fail of having the true grace of God, corruption will prevail and break forth.”

We need to heed the calling of our final verses this week. We need to diligently seek after encouraging others, following the straight path, being peacemakers with others and pursue holiness.

Hebrews 12:12-15  Wherefore lift up the hands which hang down, and the feeble knees; And make straight paths for your feet, lest that which is lame be turned out of the way; but let it rather be healed. Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord:  Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;

In Romans, Paul could be bold in his admonishment of the church because of the grace of God and it affected how he always spoke. If your speech is seasoned with grace all of the time then you earn the right to speak more boldly when the time comes. Those times are much less frequent than we think. Admonishment should be covered in love, goodness, and kindness-full of grace. It’s not always going to be easy, I have definitely learned that over time. But with God’s strength, we can learn to be swift to hear and slow to speak and wrath. We can speak graciously.

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Your turn! In what ways do you struggle the most to speak with grace? I know that I struggle with being critical too often, that is the area that I need the most work at being more gracious when I speak. What about you? Let’s chat in the comments below!

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    Barbara Fortin
    July 11, 2016 at 11:00 pm

    A friend some 25 years ago told me that my words did not match my Walk with the Lord. Sadly he was right and I changed in about a year. Today God’s GRACE hit me again, I was not talking the talk but I was walking the walk weekly Church. Sure I could name many of frustration, anxiety but these do not justify my Walk the Walk and talk the talk! I thought I had licked this, thank you for letting GRACE show me It is an on going struggle. At 65 I should know better.

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      Anastasia Safee
      July 13, 2016 at 3:36 pm

      Wow, it is amazing what an impact your friend’s comment made in your life. We need those people to speak truth into our lives. Sadly, many get angry at them instead of taking what was said to heart. I love that you took it to heart! Your story gives me (us) hope that we can change our habits and we can walk the walk and talk the talk and that it’s a lifelong lesson.

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    July 13, 2016 at 11:40 am

    I needed this reminder today! Thank you! I hope that my facial expressions would also show joy and grace instead of irritability!

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      Anastasia Safee
      July 13, 2016 at 3:39 pm

      I’m glad to hear it, Valerie.

      Great point on our facial expressions, we just talked about that in my small group Bible study. I agree, we should be showing more joy and grace on our face.

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    Laura Thomas
    July 16, 2016 at 8:37 pm

    Oh yes, this is an ongoing battle for most of us, isn’t it? Yet when we are on the receiving end of grace, we realize how precious it really is. Thanks for the reminder to be aware of our words and how they are “seasoned”… Your neighbour at #ThoughtProvokingThursdays

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      Anastasia Safee
      July 17, 2016 at 2:30 pm

      Exactly, is too easy not to give it but such a blessing to receive. I hope we can learn to do both well and season our speech with more grace.

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    Jennifer Clarke
    July 18, 2016 at 3:04 pm

    Our pesky tongues are so hard to tame, aren’t they? It’s possible only through the power of the Holy Spirit. We’ve received grace so lavishly, it’s only fitting that we grant it lavishly to others, with our words and otherwise. Thank you for sharing with us at Grace & Truth!

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