Welcome back to our month long series, following your husband’s lead!
Last week we looked more closely at what it means to follow our husbands with a submissive attitude.
Without this foundation we cannot truly follow their lead at home.
Our homes are the center of our family life. We eat, sleep, play, learn and grow in our homes. We train and discipline our children at home. We correct their bad behaviors and train the correct ones we desire them to learn.
We are free to be who are within the security of our own walls.
Wives are given the home as our domain. We plan and cook the meals, we do the shopping, we clean, we decorate the rooms to our own liking, we do the majority of the child rearing while the husband is off at work. We are the queen bee of our hive.
We are the boss while Daddy is away at work. And then if you are a lucky wife, the clock hits 5:00pm and Daddy comes home.
Then the switch happens. Daddy becomes the big boss. Mama is the little boss.
Maybe you’re a wife of a husband who works long shifts all week and you find yourself doing the majority of the parenting. Then Daddy takes over on the weekends or rare days off. You are in control of the household the majority of the time.
After making all the minute decisions all day or all week, we wives are to hand over the reigns to our husbands. Maybe you’re a wife who finds this easy. Or maybe you’re a wife who struggles to graciously let go. Besides we know what’s best, right? We are home the most, so surely we do.
Or maybe not.
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Ephesians 5:23
We need to willingly hand over the reigns. We need to be building up how Daddy is the big boss during the time when he’s at work so that the children learn that Daddy is the head of the home, even while he’s at work.
Why does it matter that we follow our husbands lead at home?
Why should the man get to decide on major parenting decisions, financials, or other matters that determine our home lives? When he’s clearly not home as often.
Too often the concept of submission in marriage causes people to incorrectly assume that the man has authority over the woman (in marriage – not in every case) because he is somehow better or more capable. However, you do not have to stretch your mind very far to think of many exceptions to this faulty logic. While typical male characteristics, may make for better leadership (you be the judge), the reality is that the authority structure in the home has nothing to do with competence, and everything to do with accountability.
1. Fight for what you want.
2. Submit, then bring it to Lord and ask Him to change your husband’s mind on the issue or your heart.
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