Welcome to our first day in our month long series, following your husband’s lead! Join us here every Friday for the month of August as we discuss areas where we need to follow our man’s lead. I can’t wait to get started!
When I was a teenager, many of the girls had an issue with the term submission. Usually in every area of their lives: parents, youth leaders, and even future husbands. They simply did not like to be told what to do. They were so outspoken about it that it became the running joke for many years in our youth group.
Then we had the girls who were the teachers pet, who would submit outwardly in every situation, yet later ditched church because of all the “rules” and “dictators”. They were outwardly submissive at the time but later their true heart was revealed.
There were many of us who fell in the middle of the road, where each situation or person in charge dictated our willingness to submit. I can’t say I’ve always been the most submissive person in the youth group over the years, I certainly had my fair share of hiccups. Which naturally carried through to my marriage.
Submission. The word most women cringe at. It goes against our natural, fleshly desires.
We want to be the boss, to control every situation. We don’t want to be told what to do or what not to do. But as a godly wife we have the God given duty to be submissive to our husbands.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Ephesians 5:22
Submitting is Gods design for a heavenly marriage.
Let’s take a look at what this word means.
Submit-To yield, resign or surrender to the power, will or authority of another.
To be submissive is to yield without murmuring.
God gave our husband’s power over us, to lead us and our families.
A lot of people get mad at christianity over the submission thing and they accuse the Bible of being negative towards women. But they miss the point that sumission in this way is only in the context of marriage and only because the man will be eternally responsible for the decisions made in his home.
I don’t know about you but I’m glad that I don’t have to make all the tough decisions, I’d probably make all the wrong ones! Our men carry a heavy load on their shoulders.
How can we make that load easier? By being submissive.
How to Follow Your Husband’s Lead
Submission starts with our attitude.
We have to chose to surrender to our husband’s lead. Our heart has to be in it in order for the chain of command to work properly.
Being submissive means lowering ourselves by putting our husband’s needs, desires and wishes above our own.
Let him lead without complaining.
They don’t need us complaining about every decision they make. I’m sure that makes them think twice about their decision.
Don’t be a difficult wife. If you’re husband doesn’t want to upset you with a decision, he may just make the wrong choice for your family.
Serve and follow him joyfully.
the wife see that she reverence her husband. Ephesians 5:33b
How is your attitude? What about your body language?
Our husband’s feel disrespected when we are unkind, rude and sarcastic with them. They are put off by us ignoring them and their wants.
If this is how we are always treating them they will not be encouraged by us to lead. They will stop approaching us and stop trying to lead all together.
Honor him. Reverence and respect his decisions. He’s the man you married, who you fell madly in love with so treat him that way!
Be an encourager!
Be his cheerleader, his biggest fan! Build him up! Smile at him!
When we’re doing this, we are encouraging his ability to lead.
Have your quiet time with the Lord every day!
Submitting your will under another person requires us to be walking in the Spirit.
When our husbands are following Christ, we can have peace of mind knowing that they are taking the family in the direction that God is telling him to go.
Like I said, I’ve always fallen into the group of girls that tends to submit basically when I feel like it. Terrible huh? Lol!
I’m a feisty and stubborn person by nature; this is something that I have to continually work in our marriage. Satan tries to trick us into thinking that we know what’s best or to fight for what we want. But we need to be vigilant at fighting this fleshly desire and keep our eyes on Jesus and His plans for our marriage.
Let’s make our husband’s job easier by being a submissive wife!
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Your turn! Do you find submission a hard principle to follow in your marriage or does it come fairly naturally to you?
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