If there is one book, besides the Bible, that I have turned to more times for marital advice it would be Created to Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl. I first read this book as a newly engaged woman and I’ve read it at least once every year since we were married. And like the Bible, I’m constantly finding new nuggets of wisdom to apply to my life or am convicted at how I’ve acted or what I’ve done n my marriage and I’ve been encouraged to keep doing what I know to be the best recipe for a fulfilling marriage.
Created to Be His Help Meet is broken into two parts. The first half focusing on our attitude while the second half focuses on our role as a wife and mother according to Titus 2. I love that she chooses Titus 2 as her main passage to encourage women as opposed to the popular Provers 31 woman passage. While I do believe that the Proverbs 31 woman is the most inspiring woman in the Bible, it is a good reminder that there are other passages we can reap so much wisdom from in how we live out our lives as wives and mothers.
Part One: The Help Meet
This portion of the book should be subtitled “Conviction”. Because that’s exactly what you will feel while reading it. But it is conviction wrapped in grace.
So many of struggle with our attitudes. We’ve spent the last few Friday’s exploring the blessings and challenges of being married to the three different of men. We’ve only scratched the surface of what these marriages look like but with each post we’ve discovered that it was our attitude that made all the difference in the world.
Debi points out that what is inside our heart regarding our marriage and husband is going to determine how happy our marriage will be.
She teaches us why having a merry heart, a thankful spirit, joyful attitude, and having wisdom are fundamental in marriage. And she doesn’t just stop there she shows you how to learn each one. Each chapter ends with reflection questions to examine your own heart.
This part of the book ends with reminding you just how important your reactions are and that by earning your husband’s trust you will be his queen, the cherished wife we all long to be.
If Created to be His Help Meet ended right here I would probably still recommend every wife reading it. It is life changing in our we act in our marriage.
Part Two: Titus 2
Titus 2:3-5 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
This portion of the book breaks down the 8 phrases in these verses that the older women must teach younger women. It is the bulk of the book and offers sound wisdom on how to smoothly run our homes. Not everyone grew up in a home that taught them how to cook, clean or even love well. Debi holds your hand and teaches you just how to do it all. She even offers tips on how to simplify our meal planning!
So many of these qualities are forgotten principles; such as sober, chaste, keepers at home and even obedient. They are seen as “old-fashioned” or “out-of-date” and no good. While they may be old-fashioned and out of date to the world’s standards they are not according to God.
Why are these things so important to teach and master? Because the Bible warns us the word of God will be blasphemed if they aren’t. Chrisitan homes are crumbling left and right. When the family unit is broken down, our country breaks down. We need strong families, strong Christian families doing things God’s way and not the world’s way. God made this a very serious matter and we need to heed the warning in these verses.
Debi’s writing style may seem blunt to some but I think women today need this type of writing. Marriage isn’t something to take lightly. She doesn’t write with flowery language, she get’s right to the point and says it like it is. Created to be His Help Meet is filled with letters from struggling wives, questions, and encouragement from those who’ve walked these roads before us. We would be wise to heed their instruction.
You won’t walk away from reading this book without feeling convicted and challenged to be the best wife you can be for your man. You will be inspired to make your marriage heavenly and treat your man like a king! If you apply these biblical principles from a true Titus 2 woman you will have a blessed, godly marriage. God’s way never disappoints!
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Your turn! Have you read Created to be His Helpmeet before? What were your thoughts? How were you challenged? Let’s chat in the comments below!
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