I have a burden. Something that has been gnawing at me for a long time. Being a blogger I see a lot in the online world. I see a lot of good but many time I see a lot of not so good.
One thing, in particular, makes me sad for us women.
If there is one thing that I want you to know this New Year is just to relax and be you.
Don’t worry about being someone you’re not.
You are brilliant.
You are enough.
You are lived.
I’ve noticed a lot of women online trying so hard to be someone they’re not. Or to mimic or copy some big bloggers lifestyle.
But it’s not who they are.
It’s sad really that we think that by imitating a blogger that we can find happiness.
When at the end of the day you still feel inadequate.
This way of living is only hurting you and I don’t want 2018 be that kind of year for you. I want you to be you this New Year.
Embrace your uniqueness.
Embrace your quirks.
Embrace your personality.
I think as women we are just too comfortable with comparing ourselves among ourselves.
2 Corinthians 10:12 For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.
I remember as a teenager I always wanted to be like someone else. I wanted her hair, her popularity, her sense of style, you name it. But I wasn’t her. I would never be her. If I kept trying to be her instead of me, the more I felt like I wasn’t good enough. It’s a sad and lonely place to be. In this place, you are always harder on yourself than you need to be. You are your own biggest critic. You are stealing your own joy.
Whoever it is that you are trying to imitate, remind yourself that she too isn’t perfect. She has flaws she wishes weren’t there. And she’s most likely comparing herself to someone else trying to be them. It’s time to shift your focus. It’s time to find contentment in yourself.
Instead of copying what she did last year or last month, find something about yourself that you love or that you want to do better at.
Maybe it’s time to click the unfollow button on social media. If you find yourself just wishing for what everyone else had, then maybe it’s a signal that you need to go off of it or unfollow those women.
Focus on yourself. I know, that sounds counterproductive in the Christian life. But if you are so hard on yourself then this would be a good thing for you. Find areas or passions of your own and spend your time perfecting those areas.
Maybe you don’t think you are good at anything, what then? Find something that YOU want to learn, a new craft, a new hobby whatever it is. Maybe its hand lettering, cake decorating, drawing, writing or fitness goals. You can learn and grow in any area when you want to do it for yourself but if you are doing it because a blogger is doing it you aren’t gong to find joy or satification in it and it will soon fiddle out. Making you feel even worse about yourself.
Stop measuring your self worth to someon else. God created you uniquely for His purpose.
Be you this New Year. Break the mold of comparison. Love yourself and be true to who are you. Spend time working on you from the inside out and I am sure that you will find that you are happier this time next year. You will break those chains dragging you down.
Be you. Love yourself. No more comparison. No more competition. Enjoy your life. Be you this New Year and see where it takes you!