Encouragement/ Helpmeet

Are You Good to Your Husband?

Are you good to your husband? Do you think that by serving him his favorite meals that makes you a good wife? Join us as we take a closer look to what it means to truly be good to your husband.

It’s a simple question really.

We clean their clothes, cook their meals, help keep them organized. Of course we are good to our husbands!

Proverbs 31:10 tells us that the virtuous woman is good to her husband all the days of her life. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. 

What does it mean to be good to our men from this verse?

Is it simply good enough to cook their favorite meal or dessert? To iron their clothes just the way they like it? To keep a clean home? I think that those do fall into being good to our husbands but I think there is more to this word.

Websters 1828 has many definitions of this simple word. Here are a few that apply here:

Kind; affectionate; faithful. 

Cheerful; favorable to happiness. 

What do these definitions have in common? Attitude. Our attitude determines if we are doing good or evil  to our husband.

Did ya catch that? I think it’s worth repeating. Our attitude determines if we are doing good or evil  to our husband. 



Are our words kind? How about our tone and body language? Are we a cheerful person to come home too? I’m certain that any man would rather have a kind wife greeting him than a clean house. A little kindness goes a long way to improve our marriages. A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver. Proverbs‬ ‭25‬:‭11‬ 

Wives should be affectionate to their man. If our attitude towards them is wrong than we will often withhold affection. This is a sin and we need to watch out for this trap. It’s not just up to our men to show us affection. Kisses, hugs, gentle touches on the arm throughout the day say “I love you”  and make him feel important, respected, and desired. A healthy marriage has lots of affection. Try the daily 15 second kissing challenge and see how much good it will do for your man!

Faithful. Are we fiercely loyal to our man? The virtuous woman was all the days of her life. If our attitude is not right than we wont be desiring to be a faithful wife. Can he count on you to follow through? When our husband asks us to do something, such as iron his shirts just so, we need to try our best to faithfully do this for him.  If it’s important to him it needs to be important to us.

This going to look differently for every couple. There are certain things that bring my husband happiness that won’t matter to others. Thankfully, mine isn’t concerned with ironing, a win for me! But he does care about his socks. Therefore, I care about his socks.

The virtuous woman’s husband was known in the gates. He was a respected man at home. Therefore, he was respected outside of his home. Ladies, let’s make our attitude towards our man a priority.  Let’s build up our men and help our marriages flourish!


Your turn! What are you doing to be good to your husband today?


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  • Reply
    June 24, 2015 at 1:37 pm

    I feel spoiled. Thanks for all you do! <3

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    Charlene Maugeri
    June 24, 2015 at 9:11 pm

    This is such an insightful post! It’s so true that a good attitude is much more important than a clean house. I think the part I struggle with the most is being cheerful. I’m not a very cheerful person by nature and I think that sometimes comes off as the opposite of cheerful when In reality I’m not really happy or sad. Does that make sense? Like my default emotion is just whatever. lol It’s certainly something I need to work on. Thanks for the reminder!

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      Anastasia Safee
      June 25, 2015 at 2:25 pm

      Thanks for stopping by! I understand what you mean. 🙂 I agree that this is an area most wives need to work on consistently.

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    Kelly Balarie
    June 25, 2015 at 2:04 pm

    Yes, I want to do that so badly. I want to build up and not tear down. Amen. Thank you for your wise words today. Cheering you from the #RaRalinkup on Purposeful Faith.

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      Anastasia Safee
      June 25, 2015 at 2:27 pm

      Kelly, Thank you for stopping by and for your kind words!

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    Deb Wolf
    June 26, 2015 at 8:31 pm

    Anastasia, Thank you so much for linking up at Counting My Blessings. Rev and I have been married 43 years. One thing I would add to your great list is . . . speaking well of them, in their presence and when they’re not. It means so much to Rev to know that I have his back always. Enjoy a wonderful weekend!

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      Anastasia Safee
      June 27, 2015 at 12:57 am

      Deb, thanks for sharing, it is an encouragement to me to see strong marriages! I do think if our attitude towards our husband isn’t right than we tend to not speak highly of them. Great reminder!

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    Rose @ Walnut Acre
    June 30, 2015 at 12:26 am

    Thank you for the reminder to check not only my actions but my attitude as well.

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    Theresnoplacelike Home
    June 30, 2015 at 6:44 am

    Hi Anastasia, My husband and I will be celebrating our ten year anniversary in July. I enjoyed reading your post. A good reminder of the gift of marriage and how to continue to grow as a couple. Thanks for sharing.

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      Anastasia Safee
      June 30, 2015 at 2:50 pm

      Happy Anniversary! Godly centered marriages are what long lasting marriages are made of!

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    Aimee Imbeau
    June 30, 2015 at 3:45 pm

    Great post, Anastasia! Strong marriages take work, a lot of work. But it is so good! Just to be free to love each other and not hold on to things we shouldn’t be holding on to.

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    Lauren Gaskill | Making Life Sweet
    June 30, 2015 at 7:04 pm

    So nice to come across your blog through the RaRaLinkUp Ana! I agree. Tone and body language are SO important in any relationship, but especially in marriage. How we speak reveals what is in our hearts!

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    July 1, 2015 at 9:21 pm

    I love the ideas you put forth in this post to show Hubby some extra love!!! I really want my readers to know about this too! I want to share this in my weekly series called “Roll Out The Red Carpet Thursday” – I share bloggers’ amazing posts that I’ve found during the week. I hope that’ ok! Have a great night!

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      Anastasia Safee
      July 1, 2015 at 10:16 pm

      Thank you for the kind words! I’d be honored if you shared my post! Thanks!

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    Karen Miles
    July 27, 2015 at 8:31 am

    Dear Anastasia,

    Thank you for the much needed reminder about our attitude in marriage. I enjoyed all you shared about being a virtuous woman and how we respect, encourage, and love our spouses all through our attitude. This was very sobering for me and a checklist the Lord used to help me see the areas I fall short. Thank you for sharing your insight.

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      Anastasia Safee
      July 27, 2015 at 9:36 pm

      I’m so glad it was a blessing to you! I need a reminder myself most days 🙂 Thanks for visiting, Karen!

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    September 16, 2015 at 1:58 pm

    I love this! Whatever is important to our husband should certainly important to us. I love how you worded that. And it’s so true that if a man isn’t respected at home, it’s much harder for him to be respected outside of the home. It starts with us. We should make our home a haven. A safe place where he doesn’t fear being ridiculed or anything like that. I wrote a post on this topic recently. http://mrsmaugeri.blogspot.com/2015/08/how-to-be-more-cheerful-wife.html

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      Anastasia Safee
      September 17, 2015 at 7:52 pm

      I agree, Charlene. We have so much influence over our husband (and our home!). I pray we use this power for good! Heading over to check out your post!

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    Karen Del Tatto
    December 4, 2015 at 1:41 pm

    Thank you for sharing this very edifying post. I was convicted with the reality of your words – a wake-up call really…

    I appreciate your gentle encouragement. 🙂

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      Anastasia Safee
      December 4, 2015 at 11:16 pm

      It sure was a wake up call when I studied it out! It is something I strive for in my marriage-I’m a work in progress!

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    Debbie Wilson
    December 8, 2015 at 12:14 pm

    Great thoughts on what it means to be good to your husband. It challenges me to be more intentional in being good to him. Thanks so much.

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      Anastasia Safee
      December 9, 2015 at 9:16 am

      It definitely takes us being intentional, otherwise we let so many things slip. So glad you stopped by and were challenged!

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