I have to admit that I struggle with being a fun mom most days. A mom described as fun by kids standards not my own. That’s an important distinction. I think if more of us were to ask our kids if we are fun they’d probably be brutally honest with us and tell us no, not really.
Have you ever noticed how dads are known for being the more fun parent? While I think it’s because they have time to play and we have a household to run, many times it’s because they are more adventurous than us women. They love the thrill of risk-taking, doing crazy games and they can run around with the kids and rough house a whole lot better than we can.
But we can’t just leave all of the fun for the kids and dad to enjoy. We need to learn how to be a fun mom. While on vacation last month, I saw just how much I’ve slipped in the fun department due to the busyness of life. Home management, cleaning, cooking, meal planning, child training, homeschool and add blogging on top of that and the fun mom retired.
I used to do so much more with kids, especially when my husband didn’t own his own business. It was easier back then and I had only one or two kids at the time. It’s easy to be the fun mom then. But what about when life gets crazy and you get more exhausted while balancing all the balls that you have?
Our kids still need a fun mom. I’m ready to be a fun mom again. I’m guessing you are too.
Play with your kids.
The first thing that comes to mind about a fun mom is is that she’s the mom who plays with her kids. Not just supervising the playing while doing something else. Most times we have to do that but at least once a day we need to put all of our other responsibilities aside and play with our children.
Get on the floor and play their game. Play Legos, blocks, babies, dinosaurs. Play board games, hide and go seek and tag. Be present in their lives.
When we are too busy doing other things we miss these connections, we miss their smiles and their laughter. And we fail to let them know that they’re even more important than the laundry.
Read to them.
My kids are so used to me reading to them that they probably take it for granted. Not everyone reads to their kids. Which makes me so sad. We need to be reading aloud more.
Read books that are at their level. Read them in crazy voices for the different characters, change your tone and pitch, read fast and then slow. Make your kids laugh and giggle and begging for one more page because it’s so fun to listen to you read.
I used to do so many crafts when I only had my boys doing them. And once the Little Guy was old enough to do it himself he created such a mess and a drama scene that I simply stopped crafting with them. Once in a blue moon, we will do something but most times we don’t.
Kids love crafts. They love messes and creating their own masterpiece. Don’t just get out the supplies and let them go to town, be involved! Make your own or walk around commenting on everyone’s art. Don’t try to dictate it be perfect or be so controlling that you and the kids end up in tears. Relax and go with the flow, let them create what they want most times.
This is a hard one for those of us who are Type A personalities. We like routine and structure so spontaneous isn’t usually in our vocabulary.
Fun to kids is spontaneous adventures. Do something out of the normal. Try a new park, try a new activity. Do something that your kids wouldn’t expect and they will think you are the coolest mom.
This one goes hand in hand with being spontaneous.
Have you every noticed how much you say no to your kids?
Can we go to the park? No.
Can we go for a walk? Not now.
Can we ride bikes? No.
Can we play in the dirt? Uh, no thank you.
Can you play with us? I can’t right now, maybe later.
Can we play a board game? We don’t have time.
And on and on the scenarios go. We are so hyper focused on our to-do list, our agenda, our chores or work and even our phones that we are missing out on so many opportunities to connect with our kids. Once they get older and can play by themselves, entertain themselves or even handle crafts themselves doesn’t mean we should step out of the picture.
This my friend is the biggest reason why we are no longer a fun mom.
I’m ready to stop being the boring parent, the tired and exhausted one who always says no and doesn’t have any fun. I want my kids to remember the fun we had, the games we played, the adventures we took, and the books we read while they were growing up. I want them to brag about how fun their mom is to their friends. I don’t want them wishing they had a more fun mom who made time for them and the adventures in life. Don’t you? Are you ready to be a fun mom with me?
Your turn! Do you struggle with being a fun mom? Which one of these ideas are you going to start today? Let’s chat in the comments below!
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