Are you struggling in your marriage? Has the passion died off? Have you been married so long that you’ve forgotten what a blessing your spouse is to you? We can let the pressures of life derail our marriage. There are quite a few bad habits that we can let creep in that will end up destroying our marriage.
It is sad how many marriages out there lack passion, joy, and excitement.
A happy marriage is possible. Shocking, I know! You don’t have to have a mediocre marriage. But how? I know I don’t want to fall into that category when my husband and I are older. So now is the time to start fanning the flames of our love in order to keep them burning down the line.
So whether you are struggling in your marriage or you don’t want to end up there, these 4 tips will get your marriage – or keep your marriage – on track.
1. Keep the flames burning.
Go out on dates, regularly. At home dates are great and so important. Connecting regularly, one on one does wonders for a marriage. But also be sure to make time for out of the house date nights. This year my husband and I are aiming for monthly out of the house dates and at home dates in between. This is new for us since we are no longer in the infant and toddler stage. But it is so needed and has wonderful for our marriage.
Do you remember what it felt like to get all dressed up for your dates before you were married? Don’t let that slip away. Dress up for man, do your hair, put on some makeup and go out on the town holding hands, laughing and whispering sweet nothings. Surprise him by playing footsie under the table! Just because you’re married doesn’t mean your relationship has to dull!
Ladies, don’t let the business of homemaking, parenting, and schooling suck the passion from your marriage. Your children are third, your husband is second after God. Make him feel like it!
Flirt, flirt and then flirt some more! Send a flirty text. Give him a passionate kiss at the door. Show him that you love and desire him. It does good for his ego and will do wonders for your marriage.
3. Give 3 compliments to each other ever day.
This will be a challenge depending how troubled your marriage is but it ver crucial that you take this challenge. Give 3 compliments to each other every day for a month. You will be amazed at how your relationship will begin to grow and blossom again. Will it happen after the first day? No. But keep going until the end of the month. Some day will be harder than others and those are the days that you need to do it the most. When we stop thinking about all of the negative and critical things about each other we open up the floodgates of love and affection to come pouring back in.
4. Keep Christ at the center.
If your marriage is failing, one of you likely has taken Christ from the center of the relationship. When we do things God’s way, He will bless us for it. When we are aiming to please Him, we take our eyes off of ourselves and our wants and we start sacrificially serving and loving our spouse.
You can’t have a happy, thriving marriage without God at the helm.
If your marriage is or isn’t on track, if you’ve lost the spark, or if you’re in a difficult marriage try these tips: keep the flames burning, flirt (a lot!), give 3 compliments a day and keep Christ at the center. I think you’ll see your marriage start thriving again. Who doesn’t want that?
Your turn! Which of these 4 ways do you need to start working on today to make your marriage better? How can I pray for your marriage? Let’s chat in the comments below!
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