Do you believe that grace can change your marriage? If we would simply work on being on more gracious with each other, I believe that we would see many marriages overcome their struggles. What does this look like? How can you change your marriage with grace?
When we are walking so close to the Lord it spills out in our speech and how we treat those around us.
But there is more you can do! I want to share with you some practical steps that you can take today to start being a gracious wife.
A gracious wife is full of love and faith.
Being full of grace will mean that you are also full of faith and love.
1 Timothy 1:14 And the grace of our Lord was exceeding abundant with faith and love which is in Christ Jesus.
In the two previous verses, Paul describes to us just how a sinner he was, “And I thank Christ Jesus our Lord, who hath enabled me, for that he counted me faithful, putting me into the ministry; Who was before a blasphemer, and a persecutor, and injurious: but I obtained mercy, because I did it ignorantly in unbelief. ” (1 Timothy 1:12-13) I know this may be a hard thing but no matter how terrible you think your husband is, if he’s rude, a jerk, messy or indifferent to your feelings, he isn’t so bad that you can’t offer him grace.
Instead of condemning him or fighting with him try being full of love and faithfulness. Give respect, be good to him, be faithful to him despite how you are feeling towards of him. Soon enough he will start responding to your grace. Your actions during a difficult marriage can save your marriage. Your grace can keep your thriving marriage thriving.
A gracious wife is humble.
Grace and pride do not mix.
Grace and humility go hand in hand.
James 4:6 But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.
Romans 12:3 For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.
Often times, we let our pride block our view of the situation. We let our feelings dictate our responses and before we know it we are arguing with our husband again. If we were to take a few minutes, pray and humble ourselves then we will be able to offer more grace in the moment.
Will it happen over night? Nope, but practicing this habit over and over again will make it become your first response over time. I’m looking forward to that day too!
A gracious wife will overlook offenses.
Your husband is not going to be perfect. He’s going to disappoint you. He’s going to forget your anniversary or even your birthday. He’s going to buy the wrong meat at the grocery store. And he will inevitably say some harsh words that cut right through you.
A gracious wife will overlook these offenses and chose to forgive and smile through it all.
Romans 5:20 Moreover the law entered, that the offence might abound. But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound:
I’m not saying we should just sweep our feelings under the rug, not at all, but we don’t need to be offended over everything that poor husband does wrong. If it’s something that has hurt you deeply, then you need to calmly go to him and talk about it. I bet you’ll find out how sorry he is or even that he didn’t mean it to be hurtful. You want to restore your relationship not tear it apart because of your attitude.
A gracious wife will watch her words and attitude.
Yur words will make or break your marriage. We can bring life and laughter into our homes or we can destroy it (Proverbs 14:1).
The way you speak and act towards your husband is critical at sharing God’s grace and love. They also demonstrate God’s work in our lives. The way we act at home reveals the true state of our hearts.
Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
Ephesians 4:31-32 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
What are yours revealing about you? Are you full bitterness, anger, and nastiness towards your husband? What about when he does do something you don’t like? How do you react? Are you full of grace, kindness, and forgiveness? Or do you fly off the handle?
Convicting stuff, isn’t it?
A gracious wife is a kind and forgiving.
I want to be that kind of wife. Don’t you? It’s time to start acting like the gracious wife that we long to be. It’s time to be full of love, faith, and humility. It’s time to overlook offenses and watch our words and our attitudes. Practice will make permanent. If we would just work on one of these characteristics at a time, it will become a habit and we can move on to the next. One day, I’m sure of it, we will become a gracious wife.
Week 5 Reading Plan:
Week 5 Memory Verse:
Your turn! Do you long to be a gracious wife? What characteristic do you need to start working on today? Let’s chat in the comments below!
This post may be linked up with any of these blogs.