Growing in Prayer/ Holiness

3 Reasons Why You DON’T Pray

Do you struggle to pray? Do you find it hard to make it a habit in your life? Here are the top 3 reasons why you DON'T pray and what you can do to stop them.

Is there anyone else out there like me, having seasons where you just struggle in your prayer closet? Some seasons your prayer life is strong and vibrant; you see the Lord answering your prayers which then fuels you to pray big and become excited about praying. But then there are other times when your prayer life is lacking, seems dull, it’s hard to start, you fumble over yourself, your mind wanders to everything else under the sun and you aren’t seeing much fruit for your efforts. You begin to push off praying, you begin to make your prayers short and sweet, and you find yourself not looking forward to praying anymore.

I’m not alone, right?

The struggle is real.

We all know that prayer is vital in our lives. Prayer changes our lives. Prayer brings us closer to God, prayer changes us from the inside out. Prayer increases our faith.

So I got thinking, why does this cycle happen? Why do we have this spirit versus flesh battle all too often? What are the reasons that stop us from praying?

Here’s what I came up with. Maybe you can relate to these as well.

3 Reasons Why You DON’T Pray

1. Pride/Sin

Pride is the number one reason why we don’t pray. Point blank. Yet there are many subtleties related to pride that keeps us from praying.

It is easy to think that we can handle whatever life throws at us all on our own. We think we fix every situation without needing God’s help or guidance. We want to attempt to fix things before we run to God.

Pride is an ugly thing in our lives and the reason for so many problems within our own lives, our relationships, in the work environment and in churches.

Pride causes us to want to run from God instead of run to Him. When we aren’t right with the Lord we certainly aren’t praying to Him.

God lists pride as one of the things that He hates. He resists us when we are consumed with our own selves. Not a good place to be.

But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble. James 4:6  

When we let pride into our lives, and when we let pride guide us, we are opening ourselves up to having sin in our lives. When we have unconfessed sin in our lives we avoid God. We try to hide it from Him and the easiest way to do this is to not pray. Sin separates us from the Father.

Remedy: Check your heart. Are you running from God? Are you trying to control every situation in your life? Repent and resist pride every chance you get.

Do you struggle to pray? Do you find it hard to make it a habit in your life? Here are the top 3 reasons why you DON'T pray and what you can do to stop them.

2. Lack of Faith

We start to think that God can’t handle our problems. We over analyze that our problems are just.too.big. We forget how BIG our God is.

God is so great that we will never be able to fully comprehend it. Isn’t that amazing?

God is so good to us, loves us so much, wants to provide for us and guide us. Why? Because He is so great. We are His precious creation.

When we get a glimpse of His awesome glory it empowers us to pray more boldly! When we see God at work and answering our prayers we are empowered to pray more boldly.

Forasmuch as there is none like unto thee, O LORD; thou art great, and thy name is great in might. Jeremiah 10:6  

Because of God’s greatness and power we should always be running to Him.

Remedy: Grow your faith. Start by doing a Bible study on faith. Read the stories in the Bible  and biographies of how great God is. Learn about how He provides and does miracles for those whom He loves.

3. Laziness

Satan tries everything he can to get us away from God. One of the main ways that he does this is by using our own laziness.

This is the very reason why we have microwaves, instant waffles, instant oatmeal. We are an instant gratification society. This type of thinking is exactly how big companies can market it to us so well. They already know how we work, that we will choose the instant mashed potatoes over the raw potatoes that we have to peel, chop, boil and mash. If big companies know this, don’t you think that Satan knows this just as much. He sure does and he uses it against us.

We are lazy creatures by nature. The littlest effort that we need to put forth the better. You know what I mean. Someone invites you over for dinner and you hope that they only ask you to bring a drink and not a whole dessert. Am I right?! The least amount of effort that we need to put forth the better.

Prayer is hard work. Therefore, we avoid it. Prayer is so much better for us, yet we still go for instant gratification.

Trying to start a habit takes time. It takes effort and we can’t easily throw in the towel when the going gets tough. We have to make the new habit a priority in order for it to stick.

Prayer needs to be a habit. Therefore, we need to learn to make it a priority.

Remedy: We need to deny our flesh. We need say no to laziness and make prayer a habit. Once it becomes a habit denying the flesh is easier but will still need to happen on a consistent basis.

Our prayer life is a spiritual battle. The devil knows that it aligns our hearts to God. The devil knows it changes our lives and he will use any resource he can to stop us.

We need to always be growing in prayer. We need to make it a priority and continually strive to devote ourselves to it.

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Your turn! Do you struggle to pray? Which reason do you struggle with the most? Or do you juggle them all at one time or another? I’d have to say that that’s where I am at, juggling them all. What about you? Tell me in the comments below!

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  • Reply
    Michele Morin
    January 18, 2016 at 9:15 am

    This is a good kick in the seat of the pants! Funny how I imagine some days that I’m too busy to talk to the God of the universe.

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      Anastasia Safee
      January 18, 2016 at 5:54 pm

      Isn’t crazy that we struggle with this when it is so important?!

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    Melanie Redd
    January 18, 2016 at 9:21 am

    Hey Ana,

    I was “parked” by you on Modest Mom today. I’m always blessed to bump into you on a link up!

    And, what a great post today! I like it so much I’m going to share it on FB later today!

    Sure am blessed by you.

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    January 18, 2016 at 9:22 am

    Such true reasons why we don’t pray! We can’t let Satan get between us and the father – we need to push in even when we miss it, don’t we!

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    January 18, 2016 at 10:24 am

    I think my struggles has always been moving away from the laundry list mentality of always asking God for things (even good things) I want to move beyond the ‘give me’ mindset to a level of prayer that’s chief aim is knowing God in a deeper way regardless of whether my ‘list’ is met or not. I find myself thinking like the disciples who could have asked for anything yet beseeched the Lord to “teach us to pray.”

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    Nancy Sturm
    January 18, 2016 at 1:47 pm

    You are spot on with your reasons we don’t pray. No, you are not alone on these. One thing I might add to your list: Modern women struggle with busyness! Thanks for sharing, Ana. I’ve stopped by thanks to Laura’s Playdates with God.

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    January 18, 2016 at 2:25 pm

    Amen! I think for me, a lot of the problem is just laziness. And how lame is that? Ugh. When God isn’t a priority, we have a big problem. Thanks for the awesome post!

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    Selena Campbell
    January 19, 2016 at 12:52 am

    Your post is so spot-on and convicting–thank you for being obedient to say the truth in love!

    One thing I would add to your list as a reason we don’t pray is that we don’t think we can “do it justice” unless we have this hour or more block of time. As moms, it is tough to feel like we can take a break for ourselves–let alone set aside an hour or more to pray. So, instead of taking 15 minutes here and there to read, study, and pray, I tend to let it go until later. (And then laziness wins because I’m tired.)

    Anyway, thanks so much for sharing that encouraging reminder to press on in prayer!

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      Anastasia Safee
      January 19, 2016 at 5:08 pm

      Good point! I totally agree. We need to just do what we are able when we are able. Anything is better than nothing!

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    Anita Ojeda
    January 19, 2016 at 6:20 pm

    I have problems with my mind wandering…so I started writing my prayers out as conversations in a journal. It’s much easier to keep my focus. I’ve also discovered the joy of praying with a small group of women. What a powerful and humbling experience.

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      Anastasia Safee
      January 20, 2016 at 11:23 am

      That is a good idea. I’ve heard of others doing that as well. I’ve never been able to get into that habit though. I am sure it would amazing to go back and reread them all!

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    Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom
    January 21, 2016 at 4:16 pm

    My pastor recently talked about this prayer.

    Prayer is a “struggle” for me. I recently realised that it was because of my own misguided interpretations of prayer that were keeping me from relating to God. I don’t know if that falls under pride or laziness – but it’s an embarrassing struggle. When I finally realized that all I had was talk to God, it became so much easier.

    I’m certain this post will minister to those who are struggling with prayer.

    Thanks for sharing (and linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).

    Wishing you a lovely day.

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      Anastasia Safee
      January 22, 2016 at 3:55 pm

      Good point. I do think people over think prayer. It really is a simple thing. Maybe we think this way because we think we are unworthy to talk to God, versus a pride issue? Food for thought, I guess!

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    Laura Hicks
    January 21, 2016 at 6:47 pm

    To be honest mine was laziness in the past. So grateful God is helping me with that and I get to spend time with Him in prayer throughout the day. Neighbors at #RaRaLinkup

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    January 22, 2016 at 9:15 am

    Beautiful! And so very important! Thank you for the gentle reminder!

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    January 23, 2016 at 2:16 pm

    All true, but I think I would also add that it can be because we don’t look at our walk with Christ as a relationship. In our daily lives, we talk with our relationships that mean the most to us. We want to tell them about our day and hear about theirs. Unless we see Christ that way, I think prayer can seem more like something we do or check off our list than the special time of having a conversation with someone we love.
    Blessings on your day!
    (Visiting today from #FaithFilledFriday

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      Anastasia Safee
      January 25, 2016 at 9:00 am

      Very good point. We need to change out view for sure!

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    January 23, 2016 at 5:19 pm

    You hit the nail on the head! Great post! I hope you can stop by:


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